I was with my ex for 2 years, just recently broke up. At first he told me to keep the baby and i was excited, but now that I broke up with him he's telling me to kill it and just saying some rotten things. I'm against abortions but I'm scared I'm too young and just not ready to raise a baby by myself.
I don't think she is making it sound like that at all. She is not suggesting that people go out and get pregnant on purpose to get assistance. She is suggesting that someone who already got pregnant accidently make the best of it and try. The girl made it clear that she is against abortion but is concerned about her baby being supported. Assistance is there for people in such situations. She SHOULD get it.
Quoting megandcailey08:
You make it sound like people should go around popping out baby's so OTHER people can pay for them. Babies are very expensive and if you can't take care of it without the help you shouldn't be having one.
Quoting Princessheika:
I already have 2 kids and 4 wks now... when i told the father his reply was NOT FOR LONG... so i told him I'M KEEPING IT AND IF YOU WANT TO GO PLZ FEEL FREE TO DO SO. Don't allow a man to discourage you that's your body and where you live should have public assistance... Food stamps, daycare vouchers, CASH assistance, WIC, medical assistance, Churches, pregnancy clinics that offer free classes & they might even give you FREE baby items
Quoting megandcailey08:
You make it sound like people should go around popping out baby's so OTHER people can pay for them. Babies are very expensive and if you can't take care of it without the help you shouldn't be having one.
Quoting Princessheika:
I already have 2 kids and 4 wks now... when i told the father his reply was NOT FOR LONG... so i told him I'M KEEPING IT AND IF YOU WANT TO GO PLZ FEEL FREE TO DO SO. Don't allow a man to discourage you that's your body and where you live should have public assistance... Food stamps, daycare vouchers, CASH assistance, WIC, medical assistance, Churches, pregnancy clinics that offer free classes & they might even give you FREE baby items
I definitely understand if you need someone to talk to. I'm a message away. Only you can decide whats best for you and the baby. Don't choose anything for his benefit or with him in mind. It doesn't matter, you and your child do :)
Wow. I think Princessheika is more along the lines of what I agree with. You obviously want to have your baby if you were so excited when he told you to keep him/her. What I am hearing is that you don't want to raise it by yourself, but trust me God will always give you what you can handle. There are a lot of programs for people specifically like you: who want to have their baby, but are scared that you will be alone and it will be too expensive/hard. Have a plan and stick to it and nothing is impossible :) Good luck sweety.
Quoting megandcailey08:
You make it sound like people should go around popping out baby's so OTHER people can pay for them. Babies are very expensive and if you can't take care of it without the help you shouldn't be having one.
Quoting Princessheika:
I already have 2 kids and 4 wks now... when i told the father his reply was NOT FOR LONG... so i told him I'M KEEPING IT AND IF YOU WANT TO GO PLZ FEEL FREE TO DO SO. Don't allow a man to discourage you that's your body and where you live should have public assistance... Food stamps, daycare vouchers, CASH assistance, WIC, medical assistance, Churches, pregnancy clinics that offer free classes & they might even give you FREE baby items
If your scared to have the baby & raise it alone give it up for adoption. But if you feel as though you cant do that either, you can always still have it & you may never know you might meet some one along the line & they will take care of you & your baby. Just take some time to sit down & really think about what you want to do. Because at the end of the day, its your body & its your choice.
Quoting KylersMom8-16-7:
Its 100% your choice. Don't get an abortion if you don't want to. Look into adoption.
If you want to keep the baby then think about how you'll afford it. Do you have a job? Can you get one? Will family help?
*Will you breastfeed(free) or formula feed?
*Will you use cloth (highly recommend) or disposible?
You'll need:
*Crib(walmart is more affordable)
*Bedding
*Clothes(second hand)
*Baby wash
*Diaper cream
*Infant tylenol
*Gas drops
*A few baby toys
Then you need to think about child care if you are in school.
Good luck.
Quoting ArronEvanmomma:
And carseat
Quoting KylersMom8-16-7:
Its 100% your choice. Don't get an abortion if you don't want to. Look into adoption.
If you want to keep the baby then think about how you'll afford it. Do you have a job? Can you get one? Will family help?
*Will you breastfeed(free) or formula feed?
*Will you use cloth (highly recommend) or disposible?
You'll need:
*Crib(walmart is more affordable)
*Bedding
*Clothes(second hand)
*Baby wash
*Diaper cream
*Infant tylenol
*Gas drops
*A few baby toys
Then you need to think about child care if you are in school.
Good luck.
I'm sorry your boyfriend is not supportive of your decision to keep your baby. But I am glad that you are choosing life for this little one. Yes, it's hard and scary, but like many have said there are lots of programs and support that can help you through this if you do choose to parent. There are also a lot of fantastic families out there who would love to adopt a baby and you can still continue to have a relationship with your child. It's a lot of hard decision making, but it sounds like you have time to really explore your options. Remember, it is YOUR choice.
Our son's first mom was considering to terminate her pregnancy and she chose adoption. Without her brave choices, we would never have our little boy.
Wishing you the best.
Candice
http://www.myadoptionprofile.com/beta/profile.php?id=557&ourletter
It is not his decision. You are the one who is carrying that baby. If you don't want an abortion, then don't do it. If you are unsure whether you want to keep the baby, look into adoption.
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- nessabear101
on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:18 PM