Here is some back ground on us. I am 19, he is in his early 20's. We have a beautiful baby girl Serena and we live in a townhouse we are planning on purchasing soon. He works in the insurance business for a great company and makes enough money to support us so I do not have to work. I previously worked full time, now I go to college and take care of Serena who is 1 month old. I graduated high school at 16, I moved out at 14 to go to a boarding academy and finished my classes early. We moved in together 3 years ago, and we have had our ups and downs but we have stuck together through it all. Our families love us both and they are all pushing us to get married now that we have a little girl together. Our bank accounts are together, our names are both on the lease and if we decide to buy both of us would own the house, so I dont think it would make a big difference if we were married.
He wants to get married soon, he gave me a diamond promise ring 2 years ago and wants to get engaged as soon as we can afford a ring (the ring doesnt matter to me, i think its a pride thing for him.. he wants to buy me something expensive). Do you think 19 is too young to get married? We are very responsible and have been working since we were young, so we are much different than our friends that are our age. I think we are ready, I still want to do pre-mairrage counseling to work out the kinks in our relationship and to learn to communicate better, but I do love him and couldnt imagine myself with anyone else. I just don't want to make a mistake and it ruin our relationship. I also dont want to 'get married because of the kids' (even though we were thinking about it before I got pregnant, which we were planning btw). We live in NC and since we are in the south people tend to look down on unmarried couples with kids, I guess it is a religious thing. I have always thought that being married doesnt matter, as long as you are ina commited relationship and love eachother, it is just a piece of paper. But Im starting to realize that it is a big deal socially, especially when you have kids together. In our city, you get married as soon as you find out you are pregnant.
I dont want to get married for the wrong reasons.. advice please?!!?
(Btw, I want to go to a resort by ourselves with very close family and have an affordable small wedding, so I wouldnt be one of those girls that 'fall in love with the wedding and not the marraige' and are so excited about planning the huge wedding that they forget they are getting married LOL)