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Is the court allowed to give my dd a paternity test just cause the father ask for it???

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Ok so I have this huge dilemma and don't know what to really do. My daughters father didn't want anything to do with me after we had broke up, but before we did I was already pregnant ( clueless to fact of course)

Anyway after I had found out I try to contact him every way possible, but he had blocked me from just about everything and was in Dominican republic for awhile (5months to be exact).

In those five months he was also dating a 15 year old, mind you he is 21 so of course that didn't last long after he had came back to dc, I would tell him about appointments and if he wanted to come but he always had something come up.

After I had given birth he came to the hospital and everyone even his own mother and father said that my dd was definately his , I guess he seemed to have think so too cause he got her name tatted and DOB.

But my dd is now 4 months today and he's only bought pampers for her twice, everytime I tell him he can take her spend time with her or see her something is always coming up. So when he is free and wants to see her I'm not and he gets mad at me( I can really give a rats ass) but he would tell people I would never let him see her that I was keeping her from him when it wasn't true.

The days he actually did come see her was only for five minutes then he was off again with his friends. After awhile I wouldn't hear from him for weeks, not even caring to ask how our dd is doing so I said ok well I'm not gonna be on your back constantly reminding you to either come see your daughter or that she needs something.

So I decided I didn't want anything to do with him, if he wanted to be in her life he would try not just tell people I don't let him see her. So anyway my phone has been off for two months now, so he has no way of contacting me.

Of course when it had cutt off I would call him and contact him so he knows we're to reach me atleast, of course he never did.

So let me just get right to it I came home yesterday and I received a letter saying I have to go to court so they can do a peternity test on my daughter. Like wtf and so I called him after whats been weeks since we've talked and asked him why he had took this to court, he tells me so we can have joint custody of her and to see of she's mine.??

The look on my face could have not been more dumb founded. So I go on to tell him your gonna make me miss school to take my daughter to court so they can stick something in her mouth, all he said was see you sept.7 and hung up.

So what I wanna know does the court have the right to do a paternity test on my daughter just because her idiot father wants it. And he's not even on the birth certificate please any answers to this ???
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by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:08 PM
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Lynnster327
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:26 PM
Thanks !


Quoting lizmartinez:

If he has custody, you really should get support from him. Even if you just save it for your daughter's future. It's his responsibility to provide for her if he wants custody. JMO.

From what I know, you don't pay for the paternity test. He does or they subtract it from what he will owe you for child support, if you choose to get it.

Again, this is from my friend's experience so I don't know how accurate the info is. Just trying to share some advice.




Quoting Lynnster327:

Thanks but I dont want any child support from him and the school already has me on probation and what gets me more mad is that I have to waste my time going to court wasting money I don't have just cause he wants a test






Quoting lizmartinez:

From what I know, they require a paternity test for joint custody and child support when the parents have never been married to each other.



I'm sure if you have school, you can contact the court and request a time that works better with your school schedule.



I don't have experience with this, but my good friend did. She had to have the paternity test done to receive support from her ex.



Hopefully you'll get some more reliable info from others here. Good luck!



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Lynnster327
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:28 PM
Umm all I asked was a ?? Your lil attitude isn't needed the only reason why I ask is cause he has no proof saying he is the father and only wants to do this for her social maybe you should have read what I said instead just the title smh


Quoting beaularson91:

umm what are you talking about of course he has a right to ask for a paternity test yes its obvious that shes his but he still has that right


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Lynnster327
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:29 PM
Thanks I will definately do that cause he is very abusive and violent and his own friends have seen him in action so if he wants to have joint custody that's fine I just prefer it to be supervised


Quoting ajb2750:

Yeah, the parent w/ primary custody almost always has the right to claim the child on taxes. He likely will not have this right. Plus, he will be ordered to pay child support, so that will be counterproductive toward any money he might recieve for school. Also, you need to start documenting his visits and who he is with so you can call them in to testify that he has not spent any time w/ child since her birth. Also, if you are breastfeeding the court is less likely to allow him overnight visits,,,,so I would def tell them you are if you don't feel safe w/ him taking the baby overnight...


Quoting Lynnster327:

But he's basically like a stranger asking to see if our child is his why take me to court if you already got her name tatted on you and if he was the one that never has time for her the only reason why he wants custody is to have her social so he won't have to pay the full amount for school and for taxes his close friend already told me and recorded it so he's doing this all for the wrong reasons





Quoting colbys_mom:

I think so. He has just as much right to ask for one as you would.




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StevensCare4u
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:30 PM
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 I think they can. The courts pretty much have the power to do anything. And even tho it seems stupid he is going about it the legal way so once he gets that you will more than likely have to let him have visitation on a regular basis, and you be awarded support. Id just see a lawyer & see what happens at court. If you cant afford a lawyer then talk to legal aid.

BeachMama05
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:31 PM


Quoting KaelynnsMommy64:

Yes they will make you get one. He has the right to know for sure.


ms-superwoman
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:35 PM
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He has every right to get one, no matter what stupid reason he has. Maybe you can call the court and get it reschedulaed for a day you have off. Also, if he is as big a pos that you say he is. I highly doubt he will get joint custody. A tip I would give is to document everything. Everytime he says hes coming for a visit and doesnt come, write it down. If he sends rude texts or emails, save them. If he shows up late all the time, or doesnt even try to contact dd for weeks/months. Write it down. If dd goes with him and comes back dirty or with bruises etc. write that down and if you can take pics. They arent official documents but most judges will take it into concideration.
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colbys_mom
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:36 PM
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I understand why youy angry at it. I would be too. But he still has the right. Even if its for all the wrong reasons. Its good you have the proof and witnesses to why he's doing it. I hope it turns out your way though.

Quoting Lynnster327:

But he's basically like a stranger asking to see if our child is his why take me to court if you already got her name tatted on you and if he was the one that never has time for her the only reason why he wants custody is to have her social so he won't have to pay the full amount for school and for taxes his close friend already told me and recorded it so he's doing this all for the wrong reasons




Quoting colbys_mom:

I think so. He has just as much right to ask for one as you would.

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Hanab818
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:36 PM
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Yes. But that also means you get child support. He has the same rights you do.what will most likely happen is they will force him to pay, and give him custody if he wants it but you will more then likely be the primary caregiver and him only weekends. The only thing you can do is make sure he makes his payment and sees your dd when he's suppose to. And keep track of everything And I don't wanna sound like a bitch but you would really keep your dd from getting to know her dad cuz he was an idiot for 4 months. That sounds very petty and childish of you. And your dd might grow to resent and hate you if she were to ever find out.

I know from first hand experience. My best friends parents got separated when he was a baby. His mom and grandma said stay away and don't contact josh ever or I will call the cops for harassment. Mind you this is 26 years ago so laws were a little different back then. His dad died about 6 years ago and left something in his will for him. He fund out he has 3 half siblings and his dad wanted nothing more then to be in his life the entire time. He hated him mom for years he was so upset. Their relationship has never been the same since.
AubreeGrace17
by Aubree on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:41 PM

Anyone who is accused of fathering a child has a right to ask for a DNA test. I would just get it done. When the paternity test comes back with him as the father you will be able to get child support.

Lynnster327
by on Jul. 27, 2012 at 7:41 PM
I'm not keeping her from him which is why I called him asking why he took this to court I have him every oppurtunity to come see her or take her or spend some time with her all I said was I gave up trying calling him constantly and seeing if he wants to take her I never said I wanted to keep her from him so im not doing anything childish I was just angry at the fact he took it to court when I gave him chances to see her it's not my fault he prefers his friends over his daughter


Quoting Hanab818:

Yes. But that also means you get child support. He has the same rights you do.what will most likely happen is they will force him to pay, and give him custody if he wants it but you will more then likely be the primary caregiver and him only weekends. The only thing you can do is make sure he makes his payment and sees your dd when he's suppose to. And keep track of everything And I don't wanna sound like a bitch but you would really keep your dd from getting to know her dad cuz he was an idiot for 4 months. That sounds very petty and childish of you. And your dd might grow to resent and hate you if she were to ever find out.



I know from first hand experience. My best friends parents got separated when he was a baby. His mom and grandma said stay away and don't contact josh ever or I will call the cops for harassment. Mind you this is 26 years ago so laws were a little different back then. His dad died about 6 years ago and left something in his will for him. He fund out he has 3 half siblings and his dad wanted nothing more then to be in his life the entire time. He hated him mom for years he was so upset. Their relationship has never been the same since.

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