So I hate confrontation...I get all shaky and red in the face and I can't speak if confrontation arises. The other day my 5yr old comes in upset that another kid had said something to upset her, so i told her to watch a cartoon, calm down and in a couple days you'll be back out playing (kids always have little spats when they play, but make up pretty easily). A minute later her mother comes up, and when I'm not all cheery like my normal self (because I was in the middle of cleaning and didn't really feel like company) she pushed and pushed telling me I wasn't my normal self. So finally I said my dd jst came in and said her daughter had said something, but i'm sure it won't be a big deal and they'll be playing again tomorrow. She brushed past me and hollered "You need to stop telling stories about my daughter!" to my kid. So I said, "Woah! I only told you that so maybe we can talk about it." So she was in my face talking about how her dd is always blamed for everything, etc., and i just said that it was what my dd told me, and that I still need to talk to her about what happened, and my dd is crying and saying "It sounded like her" and this goes on for a bit. FInally her dd comes up the stairs, and her mother askes if she had said it, and her daughter admitted she DID say it after all!
Its not the fact that my daughter did or did not lie about what had happened ( as it turned out she didn't) its the fact that the other mother, who I go on regular playdates with, and I babysit for her, actually yelled at my daughter! I don't know what to do, she ended up apoligizing for the fact that her daughter had said it, but she is ignoring the fact that my dd is now terrified of her becuase she got yelled at, and she didn't even do anything wrong.
Do you let other people discipline your kids? Even when I'm with my family, they know to let me know if my dd is acting up and I will handle it. How do you cope with other people thinking they can discipline your kid?
We have a playdate planned for tomorrow, and I just don't want to get shaky and nervous and not say anything-I need to know how to confront this if it happens again.