to find young mothers in your area that aren't still mentally in high school? I am 23 years old with a beautiful 4 year old boy, moved into the area about 3 years ago. Because i was a sahm for quite some time, i knew no one besides my SO and my DS. Then i found a few moms my age later down the road and soon came to realize that having a child did not in fact make them realize that the things they did before the child was born-were not OK anymore. (if that makes sense) One was doing drugs, another was promiscuous (who i felt bad for, but i don't think its okay to bring a different guy into your childs life every other week, if you're going to have fun, don't involve your childs feelings *my opinion*.) Anyway, so now i am back to square one when it comes to friends-let alone friends who have children...its really frustrating and it can feel lonely at times. Has anyone else been in the same situation?
Quoting Bree613:I did! There is one group with about 20 something moms, but its DEAD! And extremely inactive. BUT i did befriend one mom on there =) Thanks!
Quoting Cass2626:I looked up my state, and city on here and found two groups (baltimore and maryland) there isnt a lot of people on there but most that are, are looking for other moms to friend, try looking up where you live on here and see if there is a group
yea, mine are pretty dead too, i think my baltimore one has 2 moms lol glad you made a friend though :) np
THATS WHAT IVE BEEN THINKING! - to seriously just set an age range of women that i talk to. (older than I, obviously.) My son just started school, but a lot of the mothers look at me as if i am incapable...kwim? Have you ever gotten weird looks from mothers that are older than you? Like you don't know what you are doing or judge you right off the bat because you are younger?!?
Quoting heather4511:
I have a really hard time. That's why most of my friends with kids are about 24/25 and I usually connect better with older adults as well.
Quoting Bree613:THATS WHAT IVE BEEN THINKING! - to seriously just set an age range of women that i talk to. (older than I, obviously.) My son just started school, but a lot of the mothers look at me as if i am incapable...kwim? Have you ever gotten weird looks from mothers that are older than you? Like you don't know what you are doing or judge you right off the bat because you are younger?!?
Quoting heather4511:
I have a really hard time. That's why most of my friends with kids are about 24/25 and I usually connect better with older adults as well.
I am 25 so I don't completely relate to the very young moms, I had my daughter at 22 so I was a little grown up. But my BIL has a gf who is 19 with an 8 month old. She is an alcoholic who never takes care of her child. It is so frustrating and sad. When you have a child, no matter what age you are, grow up and take responsibility for that child. They need their moms in their life, not drunk and partying! I wanted to slap her one time she came over and I was holding him saying how much he had grown since the last time I saw him and she was like "Yea he gets bigger everytime I see him" To me that is NOT a mother! Sorry to go off on a rant but I understand everything you are saying and good for you for being there mentally and physically for your child!! I am not saying never go out in the least lol, there are times when my MIL takes my daughter for the night and me and hubby go out have a few beers and then come home and drink some more, but our child is never there when that happens!!!
pregnancy police
- Bree613
on Oct. 20, 2012 at 2:22 PM