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(Piog)Feeling selfish but don't know what else to do....

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I originally posted this in the depression group but apparently it's pretty dead....so sorry if this is depressing....

I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my first child, a baby girl. I'm 22 and married but we live with my parents. My dh is 26, has health issues physical and mental. I suffer from depression as well. I've been on zoloft since before I got pregnant and had it approved by both my doctors to continue it throughout my pregnancy. Now here is my issue, I'm not sleeping at all cause I can't get comfortable. I hurt all over, I've only slept 2 hours in over 30 hrs and its making my depression worse. My doc prescribed ambien but it doesn't keep me asleep, just makes me even more tired. Even taking it I only get 3 hours of sleep at most. My doctor told me a few weeks ago that I was the perfect candidate for induction if it came to it. I'm dialated to a 2 and 75% as of monday. I have an apt at 1130, tomorrow morning and dh and I decided to talk to her about inducing me. People keep telling me I'm being selfish, that she'll come when she's ready, but I don't know if I can take much more. I've already tried all natural ways of induction, even castro oil. I know with her here I'll still get little sleep but at least I could get comfortable and sleep while she slept. 3 hours off and on would be better than 2 hours in over 30 hrs....please tell me I'm not being selfish.....:/
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by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 2:39 AM
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ProudMommy51006
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 3:04 PM
Lol well that's awesome! I hope your next one is lovely too :)

Quoting Nicki1995:

Lol! Everyone told me they were uncomfortable their whole pregnancy and i couldnt understand why. The only bad thing for me was morning sickness the entire time except the last 2 weeks. I hope i stay lucky when i have my next 1 in a few years! Lol




Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Lol!!! Ok there is the exception. My mom was like you. But everyone else was miserable lol





Quoting Nicki1995:

I didnt want my pregnancy to end! Lol I LOVED it. I never got uncomfortable or had problems sleeping either though. Her kicking and hiccups and moving helped me sleep








Quoting ProudMommy51006:

Yes, you are being selfish imo. I kmow you are ready to be done. We ALL get to that point, it's not just you. Your ending of your pregnancy sounds pretty normal. Let the baby come. When she is ready. You've made it this far. Sorry if this is harsh, but it's not about just you anymore. It's about the baby and what is best for her.


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MommyO2-6631
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:05 PM
I don't think you are selfish. I know how important sleep is to manage depression.
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AubreeGrace17
by Aubree on Nov. 15, 2012 at 9:15 PM
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There is nothing wrong with induction. You are full term and your baby is healthy. I don't see what the big deal is! Granted, you won't get a ton of sleep with a newborn but you will probably get a lot more than what you are getting now.

Hanab818
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:48 PM
It does not take 2 years. My boys are 18 months apart. I could of had a vbac but that meant finding a new doctor that I trusted if things went wrong. I dont Trust many doctors with my life so I didn't want to risk it when it came to me and the baby.


Quoting Nicki1995:

Honestly, i wouldnt do it. My daughter was in the birth canal at 37 weeks. I got induced at 38 weeks and dialated 2 cm in 2 days. Had to get a csection. It was a really hard recovery process. I am still healing from it. It takes 2 years for your body to completely heal so you can have vaginal birth the next time around IF YOU ARE LUCKY. I have to wait at least another year and a half until i can get pregnant again =(

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Nicki1995
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 12:03 AM

I have done A LOT of research on this. Your body takes 18-24 months to heal enough for a successful vbac. I was wanting to give my body a little extra time to heal anyway to hopefully increase my chances for vaginal birth after csection next time. It does take that long though and doctors will not let you try vbac unless it has been that long because there is a greater chance of uterine rupture

Quoting Hanab818:

It does not take 2 years. My boys are 18 months apart. I could of had a vbac but that meant finding a new doctor that I trusted if things went wrong. I dont Trust many doctors with my life so I didn't want to risk it when it came to me and the baby.


Quoting Nicki1995:

Honestly, i wouldnt do it. My daughter was in the birth canal at 37 weeks. I got induced at 38 weeks and dialated 2 cm in 2 days. Had to get a csection. It was a really hard recovery process. I am still healing from it. It takes 2 years for your body to completely heal so you can have vaginal birth the next time around IF YOU ARE LUCKY. I have to wait at least another year and a half until i can get pregnant again =(


Hanab818
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 12:34 AM
I spoke to other doctors who have would try vbacs at 18 months. I could of had one if I chose to switch doctors. And just pointing this out but you are contradicting yourself. You said it takes 2 years then 18 to 24 months. I said it doesn't take 2 years. I could of had one at 18 months pp. that is why I said it doesn't take 2 years. I'm not trying to attack you or anything I'm just pointing out your first statement is wrong.



Quoting Nicki1995:

I have done A LOT of research on this. Your body takes 18-24 months to heal enough for a successful vbac. I was wanting to give my body a little extra time to heal anyway to hopefully increase my chances for vaginal birth after csection next time. It does take that long though and doctors will not let you try vbac unless it has been that long because there is a greater chance of uterine rupture



Quoting Hanab818:

It does not take 2 years. My boys are 18 months apart. I could of had a vbac but that meant finding a new doctor that I trusted if things went wrong. I dont Trust many doctors with my life so I didn't want to risk it when it came to me and the baby.




Quoting Nicki1995:

Honestly, i wouldnt do it. My daughter was in the birth canal at 37 weeks. I got induced at 38 weeks and dialated 2 cm in 2 days. Had to get a csection. It was a really hard recovery process. I am still healing from it. It takes 2 years for your body to completely heal so you can have vaginal birth the next time around IF YOU ARE LUCKY. I have to wait at least another year and a half until i can get pregnant again =(






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Nicki1995
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 10:52 AM
I should have been more clear. The doctors around here that allow VBAC make you wait 2 years. The midwives that iv heard about in other places only make you wait 18 months. I guess i should have pointed that out lol!


Quoting Hanab818:

I spoke to other doctors who have would try vbacs at 18 months. I could of had one if I chose to switch doctors. And just pointing this out but you are contradicting yourself. You said it takes 2 years then 18 to 24 months. I said it doesn't take 2 years. I could of had one at 18 months pp. that is why I said it doesn't take 2 years. I'm not trying to attack you or anything I'm just pointing out your first statement is wrong.






Quoting Nicki1995:

I have done A LOT of research on this. Your body takes 18-24 months to heal enough for a successful vbac. I was wanting to give my body a little extra time to heal anyway to hopefully increase my chances for vaginal birth after csection next time. It does take that long though and doctors will not let you try vbac unless it has been that long because there is a greater chance of uterine rupture




Quoting Hanab818:

It does not take 2 years. My boys are 18 months apart. I could of had a vbac but that meant finding a new doctor that I trusted if things went wrong. I dont Trust many doctors with my life so I didn't want to risk it when it came to me and the baby.





Quoting Nicki1995:

Honestly, i wouldnt do it. My daughter was in the birth canal at 37 weeks. I got induced at 38 weeks and dialated 2 cm in 2 days. Had to get a csection. It was a really hard recovery process. I am still healing from it. It takes 2 years for your body to completely heal so you can have vaginal birth the next time around IF YOU ARE LUCKY. I have to wait at least another year and a half until i can get pregnant again =(









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Maevelyn
by Member on Nov. 16, 2012 at 11:24 AM

idk I was uncomfortable too at 39 weeks everyone is. You really have to consider that she is still developing her brain, lungs and eyes. 39 is pretty close. I say hold on to 40 at least that way if she is a week or two off on her due date you're giving her as much development as possible. I think I slept about as much as you do btw. Nap if you can, walk too bc that will help you sleep, make your delivery easier and maybe make her take the choice out of your hands ;)

Maevelyn
by Member on Nov. 16, 2012 at 11:28 AM

lol some one had to say it. She is sleeping better now.

Quoting AubreeGrace17:

There is nothing wrong with induction. You are full term and your baby is healthy. I don't see what the big deal is! Granted, you won't get a ton of sleep with a newborn but you will probably get a lot more than what you are getting now.


Hanab818
by on Nov. 16, 2012 at 11:31 AM
Yea I have heard some mom's were allowed to try after a year.


Quoting Nicki1995:

I should have been more clear. The doctors around here that allow VBAC make you wait 2 years. The midwives that iv heard about in other places only make you wait 18 months. I guess i should have pointed that out lol!




Quoting Hanab818:

I spoke to other doctors who have would try vbacs at 18 months. I could of had one if I chose to switch doctors. And just pointing this out but you are contradicting yourself. You said it takes 2 years then 18 to 24 months. I said it doesn't take 2 years. I could of had one at 18 months pp. that is why I said it doesn't take 2 years. I'm not trying to attack you or anything I'm just pointing out your first statement is wrong.









Quoting Nicki1995:

I have done A LOT of research on this. Your body takes 18-24 months to heal enough for a successful vbac. I was wanting to give my body a little extra time to heal anyway to hopefully increase my chances for vaginal birth after csection next time. It does take that long though and doctors will not let you try vbac unless it has been that long because there is a greater chance of uterine rupture





Quoting Hanab818:

It does not take 2 years. My boys are 18 months apart. I could of had a vbac but that meant finding a new doctor that I trusted if things went wrong. I dont Trust many doctors with my life so I didn't want to risk it when it came to me and the baby.






Quoting Nicki1995:

Honestly, i wouldnt do it. My daughter was in the birth canal at 37 weeks. I got induced at 38 weeks and dialated 2 cm in 2 days. Had to get a csection. It was a really hard recovery process. I am still healing from it. It takes 2 years for your body to completely heal so you can have vaginal birth the next time around IF YOU ARE LUCKY. I have to wait at least another year and a half until i can get pregnant again =(












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