Hello everyone. I've got a situation and I really need honest advise. I'm 20 years old and have been serving in the Navy for almost 2 years. I am currently married and have no children but I am trying to conceive. I've been on birth control for the past 5 months, and I just recently took my patch off in hopes to become pregnant soon. I work in a combat unit and my job produces a lot of mental and physical challenges. I am concidered by most around me to be one of the luckiest junior sailors in the navy. I am apart of a new ship that is setting the standards for the future Navy. Not only that, but I am one of the first Junior sailors to arrive to this type of command; making me stand out among the rest. ONLY ONE PROBLEM: I don't want any of it. Not the training, not the attention, not the opportunities nor the glory of it all. It's sucks that I got put into this type of job, but I didn't neccessarily choose it. It was kinda just put on me. I came into the Navy to get money for school and provide a better life for me and my husband. THAT'S ALL.
Me wanting to have a baby is where the main issue comes in. It's already hard on women having children in the military ( If you didn't already know). People look down upon it and make you feel crappy about it. I think this is mostly because the military can no longer use you; at least while you're pregnant. Then, they have to give you a mandatory 3 month recovery period. Being that I am apart of a combat unit, every person counts. Every one plays a essential role in ensuring the success of the missions. If I get pregnat, I get de-screened from the program (which I won't be sad about) but what will people say? What will they think? How will the rest of my time in the Navy be not being apart of something so bad ass? Because quite frankly, this IS an oppourtunity that will never come again. But at the same time, I really want to have a baby now. I am totally TORN