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Married at 17 is HARD!

Posted by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:31 PM
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ITS HARD! I love my husband to death but sometimes i want to rip my hair out! Anyone else feel like that sometimes? I don't know why he just lags EVERYTHING! The sink has been broken for about 2 weeks and everytime i ask him to fix it he says he's busy. He's not lying he is busy with work and he says thats important but this is important too. I have my mom and mother in law constantly bugging me to tell him to fix it and i just feel so frustrated! I don't know how to handle this situation. He works on iphones sells and buys them and all his iphone parts are all over the house the plates are pilled up in the kitchen i'm just fed up. He doesn't want me to ask anyone else to fix our sink but he won't do it himself. I heard that if our sink stays like this it will rott and we'll get all kinds of insects. It already STINKS! I'm so disgusted i feel like i can't take it anymore! Please give me some advice idk what to do how to talk to him. It's not like i yell i ask him nicely and he's the one to start yelling at me he's just become so mean lately. I feel like i can't talk to him without him yelling and getting irritated. 

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MommyLehr
by Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:32 PM
Can you fix it?
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teenmom379
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:38 PM


Quoting MommyLehr:

Can you fix it?

No, I have no clue how to and i'm also pregnant its hard for me to kneel down and take a look. If I could fix it I would. Honestly though i think that would cause a problem too. He would get angry at me for trying if I were to mess it up more. 

BrentlysMomma
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:44 PM
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Im 17 and married too. :) you just have to talk to him it will get better
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Nicki1995
by Silver Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:47 PM
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I got married at 16 (i am 17 now), and we are doing fine. Lol Sounds like he is just being an ass. My husband helps me as much as he can. My husbands family (which would be my in laws) hate me. The only people that like me and consider me family are his mom, uncle, and cousin. Everyone else hates my guts, and he has a big family. They consider him and my daughter their family, but not me. They havent seen my child but like 2 times (if even that) since she was born and she is 8 months. The only people that will end up having something to do with her from his side of the family are his mom, uncle, and cousin. Sorry for the vent....Lol Just tell him that you REALLY need the sink fixed now because you need to get things cleaned back up and he needs to help you
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SweetMama823
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:51 PM
I got married at 16, it was extremely hard with a newborn and a husband. My hubby had a lot of growing up to do and accept all
responsibility that came with being married. If your hubby doesn't take fixing a sink what makes you think he's gonna put in 100% in your marriage and take it serious. Talk with him and let him know what you need. Good luck!
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Bertha21
by Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 4:52 PM
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I am sure being married at any age is hard.
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teenmom379
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:09 PM


Quoting Nicki1995:

I got married at 16 (i am 17 now), and we are doing fine. Lol Sounds like he is just being an ass. My husband helps me as much as he can. My husbands family (which would be my in laws) hate me. The only people that like me and consider me family are his mom, uncle, and cousin. Everyone else hates my guts, and he has a big family. They consider him and my daughter their family, but not me. They havent seen my child but like 2 times (if even that) since she was born and she is 8 months. The only people that will end up having something to do with her from his side of the family are his mom, uncle, and cousin. Sorry for the vent....Lol Just tell him that you REALLY need the sink fixed now because you need to get things cleaned back up and he needs to help you

oh wow i can't imagine having my inlaws hate me. Thinking about it i don't think they consider me their own though. In the armenian culture it's a HUGE deal to get pregnant before getting married so i feel like my mother in law constantly looks down at me. But I have a great relationship with my sister in law. I love her and i really feel like she's whole hearted with me she even offered to be in the room with me in the hospital while i have the baby. Alen (my husband) is iffy about it. The thing with Alens mom is she constantly puts her kids down. Before Alen and I moved out from his moms house i felt like i hated his guts. Alens mom doesn't work so she was home 24/7 and the whole time all you would hear out of her mouth was complaining and just putting her own kids down. She did it so much especially about Alen that i just couldn't look at him. I feel like thats when we started loosing repect for each other yelling at each other cursing andstuff. It was HORRIBLE I regreted everything at the time but now that we moved out were seeing less of his mom and i feel like our relationship is getting a bit better. I feel like if the cursing and yelling that happened at his mom didn't happen he would respect me and he would do the things that i need him to do. He wouldn't lag it. I fell like if its important to him he'll go out of his way to get it done but if its important to me if its something i need he won't really care. For example he went and bought a 65 dollar game for himself yesterday. It got me really upset beceause when i needed maternity pants he would make it a big deal and say we don't have money. I need at least two new bras their all small on me i need new pants cause their torn up i wear his at home. There are things that i don't have and that i need I mean even him he needs undies but he goes and buys a game instead of the things we need and when i sit down and tell him that that upset me he gets all defensive. I am literally scared to talk to him because i feel like everytime i open my mouth he starts yelling and i sometimes can't control myself i'm human i have feelings too i start yelling and then we have this big fight over something sooo stupid. Idk how to make our relationship the way it was. Venting feels good though sorry i wrote so much i can't exactly talk to anyone about this. 

teenmom379
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:15 PM


Quoting SweetMama823:

I got married at 16, it was extremely hard with a newborn and a husband. My hubby had a lot of growing up to do and accept all
responsibility that came with being married. If your hubby doesn't take fixing a sink what makes you think he's gonna put in 100% in your marriage and take it serious. Talk with him and let him know what you need. Good luck!

Did he eventually grow up and start acting the way he should be? How long did it take and how did you talk to him about things so he wouldn't get defensive and start a fight? When i tell him what i need he says i'm busy with work i have a lot to do. and i don't really ask for much. thinking about it i try to not ask anything from him unless i REALLY need it and even then its still a problem.

KeheleyLayna
by on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:18 PM

 I was married at 17 too! I'm now 20. Our first two years were the hardest. We didn't comunicate well at all, which resulted in horrible yelling matches, and even physical abuse on both sides. Thankfully we have moved past that and we have a happy marriage. When talking dont bring in sarcasim, only makes it worse, or previous arguments. Sit him down and talk to him, and tell him you feel bad when your family is pressuring you to tell him to fix the sink, and if it stinks, its probably not a good thing for you to be constantly smelling it since you're pregnant. I realized with my husband, if I explain to him my feelings, and why, then he tends to get things done faster. Good luck momma.

GremlinMom
by Member on Nov. 27, 2012 at 5:25 PM
Being married at any age is hard. My DH always pulls the "I'm busy" card, like your DH he is actually busy. Try asking him to unload a bit. My DH tends to be an asshole when he is super stressed. So find out what is stressing him out, could easily be that youre expecting and hes worried about money and other things a provider worries about. It's not fair but that's how it is, I'm sure it will change with age. We're 23. give him a deadline to fix it, like before the baby is born. And tell him because of the baby. I'm sure he sees you getting stressed because of it. Men are visual creatures, im sure youve heard this. If youre pissed about the sink, instead of screaming at him to fix t - start crying. It's good for your stress and he will SEE it needs to be fixed. Make sense?
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