With your ex husband/baby daddy like this one that I am fixing to go into detail about... After my son was only a few weeks old my ex and I split up and divorced. I was young and still kind of am (not even 21 yet) & had no one to turn to. No family & no friends... no advice at all. We decided joint custody would be the best so that Our Son could know both sides of his family. In our divorce papers I get our son from Sunday at 5p.m til Thursday at 5p.m. My ex gets him from Thursday at 5p.m til Sunday at 5p.m. Holdiays are as follows if he is with me on Christmas, Thanksgiving, or The 4th Of July My ex gets him from 12 in the afternoon til 8 that night. If my ex has him then I get him on those holidays from 12 in the afternoon to 8 that night... My sons 3rd Birthday is coming up on April 1st and it falls on my day. My ex didn't let me get any extra time with our son last year on our sons birthday which his birthday was on a Sunday. It doesn't say any where in the divorce papers that we have to share him on his birthday. I think that we should. But my ex refuses to add me on facebook but his new wife insists she be on mine. With my work schedule being the way it is I am actually off the monday my son turns 3, so I booked his birthday party at a jump place in the nearest town and posted the day and place of his party but asked my facebook friends what time would be more convenient for them seeing as how most of them have children in school... well his wife told him I posted that his party was going to be on the actually day of his birthday and he text off her phone saying well you could have asked me about it first because I had plans with him from 12 in the afternoon til 8 that night because it is my time. I informed him that I read the divorce papers before I posted any thing on facebook and that no he doesn't get him from 12 to 8 that day because it is on my day and it is my only day off til that following weekend and I am not waiting til a week after his birthday to throw him a party, it would be un-fair to him. But I had already decided (before he sent me the text) I was going to let our son stay with him Sunday night so he could spend the morning of his Birthday at my ex's house with his family and they could drop him off at his party so I could decorate and get everything ready so it would be perfect. My ex is being a jerk about it still. & the funny thing is, is he hasn't tried communicating with me in a good way at all these last 3 years and I feel like he should try to talk to me more. Him and My Husband didn't have a child together and Me and His Wife didn't have a child together... It was us! We should communicate a lot more but he avoids it. I called him again today about the situation and asked him if he could meet me this coming Sunday when I go to pick up Our Son from the town they live in... & asked if he could meet me alone at the park and that I would also be alone. That it will just be Him, Our Son, & Myself. So he can talk to me face to face without his wife putting her 2 cents in on every thing and without my husband getting bull headed... I want us to have a better relationship for Our Sons sake and the new babies that are also involved on both sides of the fence if ya'll know what I mean. All four of us should be on the same page and always be civil no matter the circumstances. I just wish that him and his new wife would see where I am coming from... What do you guys think about My Sons Birthday Situation? & On the over all situation? Am I really that bad of a person... and Am I in the Wrong?