From someone who's not a young mom-you need an equal balance. You gotta remember you were a couple before you became parents. When you place the child over the father it hurts the relationship. And if you completely place the husband over the child it hurts the child. You have to find balance to have a good family all around.
They are both different.
Which one is stronger? Neither.Which one should be more important? The love for my husband.If we don't love each other and put each other first, we can't have a happy home for our children. I was with my husband for years before we had kids, and we will be together after they have moved on and started their own families.If we neglect that relationship, it puts a strain on the whole house.
By putting our marriage first, we are setting a healthy example for our kids. Now, if my husband was harming our children - obviously they come first- but for every day living? It can't be that way.
CHildren come first in my opinion. A husband can leave you and cheat on you but there are plenty other men in the world, there will only be one child that has come from you. If I had to weigh the love it would be my children without a doubt.
I may get bashed for this answer but while the two loves are different I do think I love my son more than anyone on this earth. He is my heart my soul and I would die for him in an instant and I would kill for him. My love for him is unbreakable and if I lost him I would die. My love for my SO is very strong and if I lost him I would be devastated but I know I could go on I could survive but without my son I could not. Love for husbands, BF or whatever can come and it can go, sad but true, but the love for a child at least for me is forever. That is the difference for me.
definitely two different types of love
Quoting Babybear89:They sre entirely different and seperate. They are different relationships
I can't quantify one over the other.
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