I am currently dating a guy that has 2 children from a previous marriage. They are 14 and 16. I haven't met them yet and am very nervous about doing so. I've voiced my concerns to him and he assures me that they'll love me because he does and that no matter what he won't stand for any disrespect. But being a child of divorced parents myself I know that it doesn't always work that way.
My biological father introduced my sister and I to our new step-mom and brothers and sister on my 9th b-day. I knew nothing of them until we go to a house I didn't know and walked inside and were told that this was our new family. It sucked! And to this day I dispise them, not just for that but it certainly didn't start things out on a good note.
I don't want my possible future step-children to feel that way about me. I know that I just have to tred the water lightly, but I also have an impressionable child, being she's only 8.5 months old. And Shawn and I have discussed having another child together. I want to give them the opportunity to ask me any questions that they want and be completely open about who I am, but is that the best way? I know they say honesty is the best policy, but I'm concerned about being considered more of a friend. I want to present a united front towards them and let them know that we can be friends but that we're also not to be played against one another. I have so many questions of my own before I can handle being asked questions by them for fear of answering incorrectly.
So please any step-parents, non step-parents, whoever wants to share, please give me some ideas and help ease my mind and my heart. Thanks.