See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
So we went camping for my husbands birthday this weekend. We had so much fun but i kept noticing that we were acting different than all the other couples. Everyone else was all cuddly and loving on eachother and we were like on opposite sides of the fir all night and just not close at all. I am not saying i want to be showing a bunch of PDA's but i would like SOME affection.
My one friend asked her husband (of 2 months) if he would make her a smore. His reply was " i would love to" as he stoped what he was doing and proceded over to the marshmellows. I had later decided to ask my husband the same question. His response was " yeah, but hold on a sec" and it took him over 5 minutes to finally start. he acted discustted at the chore the whole time.
Now i know it was just one little question but it got me thinking. From then on i was watching everyone the rest of the weekend and i really think their is something wrong with our relationship. We are never relly all that cuddly anymore and it is starting to worry me. All we do is fight and never "Make love" either. its always" can we sex?" and we do it and go to sleep. It's not loving and it takes all of maybe 5 minutes and thats only if it has been a while since we last did it.
We are the only ones of all our friends that have a child and we have been married the longest. BUT...we havent been together the longest. My girlfriend and her fionce' have been together for almost 6 years and they are still as close and happy as they were the first week of being together.
I just want to be like we were in the begining of our reltionship. I mean i know that random sex in the middle of the day on our kitchen table isnt going to happen (not like that actually ever happened b4 the baby) but i do want him to show me he appreciates me and wants to be aroud me. All we ever do is fight about money and the house being dirty. And all he ever wants to do is go out with his friends or play his computer games all by himself. I just dont know what to do.
Should i even bring this up to my husband and if i do how do i say it without him thinking i want to get a divorce?!?!
I just need help!Any advice would be much appreciated!