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Just need to vent (sorry if TMI)

Posted by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:43 AM
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ok, so I just had a baby on the 14th. and since then I can't even get my bf to kiss me. he'll peck me on the cheek but won't give me a real kiss. And yes my feelings are hurt. Am i over reacting? I don't think so. I'm used to getting kisses from him all day long and for 11 days now, nothing. Well last night i go into our room and he's in there beatin off. i ask if he wants some help, (tmi, i know). he says sure but asks if i'll get him something to drink first. i go down stairs and have to make some tea for him. by the time i get back up there he has already finished himself.  yet i am hurt again. it's like he don't want nothing to do with me. i just wanna cry. sorry guys, just needed to vent.

by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:43 AM
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by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:47 AM
poor thing!  My fiance was kinda the same way after i had my baby...really distant...wait a couple weeks he'll come around...
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:47 AM
im so so sorry hunny. i wish i knew what to tell u. when i was prego my ex boyfriend who i was with didnt even wanna touch me. he kept his hands and evrything els to him self i was so upset, and then we he did want to have sex i would be asleep(itd be like 2am and i had school) and hed have to watch a porn first. so i know where ur coming from.
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:49 AM
This sucks.  I really think you need to talk to him.  He can't possibly know he is hurting your feelings if you dont tell him and talk it through.
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:52 AM
When I was pregnant my fiance wouldn't want anything, but after I had our son he was all over me. I hated it cuz I was nasty and still am, I haven't tried to lose any weight, I just gain the weight.

by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 9:56 AM
he wanted it all the time when i was pregnant. and even in a week my body is gettin back to normal fast. i don't look like i gave birth a week ago. i can wear my pre pregnancy. i thought i looked good. aparently i'm wrong.
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 10:00 AM
Some men r BIG IDIOTS !! Why should a baby change the way they feel abt their gf?? HUh. I get pissed off when I hear these things. Don't men know what they want or what they have ?? Common..they r so stupid sometimes.
I think ur bf is acting immature ! And what abt him beating off...pleeezzee. If my husband did that, it would really hurt me !
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 10:06 AM
Ok this may not be the case, but he may be extremly horny and he is afraid that if you touch him he will really want sex badly from you and not be able to keep his hands off of you. Yes it hurts your feelings but alot of men dont know how to handle a woman , so to speak , after having a baby he kinda looks at her as fragile all of a sudden....If you want to involve urself that way with him before ur healthy to intteract so to speak just tell him how u feel and describe in full detail how u wanna 'help' him out...

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by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 10:21 AM
My husband was the same way. He wouldn't go near my "who who" or my breasts. He said it was too weird beacuse our son came out of there and our son feeds from there. I had him almost 4mo ago and I'm not nursing anymore and he still feels weird about it. I'm wating for it to change and SLOWLY it is but I totally understand how ur feeling. Hang in there!
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 10:28 AM
Maybe its just because he knows that you have to wait the six weeks and he doesn't want to start anything that he can't finish. He prob is scared to get turned on. So he tries to stay away cuz he knows he can't control himself when it comes to you.
by on Jul. 25, 2007 at 10:36 AM
My husband was the same way right after I had our daughter. He didn't want to have anything to do with me sexually. And with all the post pregnancy hormones I was a mess, so I confronted him about it. He told me that he was just kinda scared that he had never realized how fragile I was until the baby came along and that he didn't want to hurt me. After a couple of weeks when the c-section had healed properly I explained to him that everything was fine and that I didn't have to be "Handled With Care" anymore, now I can't get him to leave me alone!!! He'll come around especially if you're losing the weight that quickly maybe when you feel up to it you should "show" him just how back-to-normal you really are....
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