So I saw on the news about the little boy who was set on fire by five kids for snitching.. I mean this was sickening and heart wrenching. One of the little boys was like 13. So this is my question. Kids killing kids. What do you think is the problem and what is your proposed solution?
Have you seen the video of the little girl on youtube cussing? Or the disturbing video of the little girl and the little boy grinding? Not to mention the many other videos of our children in GROWN UP situations that the PARENTS allow to happen...
Once we figure out how NOT to allow ANYONE to have a child, then and only then will your question have a solution...until then we PRAY, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!!!!!
It just so sad. All of these things, I mean, how does a kid get so pissed, that they contemplate " I'm gonna set this boy on fire". Like where did that come from? How is your kid planning on attempted murder and you, as a parent not know about it? I do agree though that prayer is the first and foremost thing we should do. Next is "take some responsibility." I have an Aunt, who is older and has a 23 year old, and a 6 year old. She told me the other day " i used to be able to say what my 23 year old wouldn't do, but now I'm just not sure. With all of these other influences, media, etc. I just can't say it." I was thinkg "WOW."
I agree with your Aunt...you can have a great home environment...bring your kids up the right way and have it in your heart that your child would not do wrong....but that child that you've nurtured and protected with care can get influenced by the kids I've mentioned earlier, who's home life is filled with the nasty and cruel things of this world and all you've invested will be destroyed...
I can say though that there seems to be a point where they are slipping. Those teen/pre teen years. It seems like you have to STEP IT UP or you know do someting change it up to show them that you are still in touch.
Quoting mom2mybabes:
I agree with your Aunt...you can have a great home environment...bring your kids up the right way and have it in your heart that your child would not do wrong....but that child that you've nurtured and protected with care can get influenced by the kids I've mentioned earlier, who's home life is filled with the nasty and cruel things of this world and all you've invested will be destroyed...
I think that the parents and are the problem because it is the parent's job to discipline these kids when they are younger and also teach them wrong from right. The solution for these problems that kids cause today should be that the parents must take immediate action towards the troubled child whether it be counseling or tough love, I understand that parents try their best to raise their kids today the best they can and discipline them within society's rules of discipline but back in the old times kids used to get beat with belts everytime we got in trouble and now parents are taught by society that if they slap or beat their kids they can be thrown in jail for child abuse, parents should take control and stop being afraid of disciplining these kids and stop letting society take the job from them.
My dh and I were talkinga bout this the other day, and I think that there is a part in time that there is a disconnect, the preteen age. And so, I think we have to switch it up, not be afraid to talk to our kids and think " oh well if I am strict with them or if I am stern with them, then they'll go off and do this, or they will not talk with us, or .... But we have to learn how to switch it up and have the effect on them even in the teen years that we did when they were younger. Parental influence is the key.
That is very scary....where did that occur? A young man here in Chicago was beaten to death a few weeks ago, and it has sparked major attention and immediate call to action against violence. I don't know what the problem is.
Kids can be angry for multiple reasons...growing up in a broken home, no love, affection, or attention.
As far as a solution??? What can you REALLY do.....considering that you have absolute no control over what goes on in other people's homes....YOU may have a good head on your shoulders....but the next couple of parents may not....and that is where the problems lie.
In South Florida. But yes i agree, that's what I am saying. We ALL as parents need to just be fed up with loosing our children and should band together and push to get closer and be more involved. I know I know, preaching to the choir...
Quoting vanillacaramel:
That is very scary....where did that occur? A young man here in Chicago was beaten to death a few weeks ago, and it has sparked major attention and immediate call to action against violence. I don't know what the problem is.
Kids can be angry for multiple reasons...growing up in a broken home, no love, affection, or attention.
As far as a solution??? What can you REALLY do.....considering that you have absolute no control over what goes on in other people's homes....YOU may have a good head on your shoulders....but the next couple of parents may not....and that is where the problems lie.
move for one you can only control what actions would be likely for your child not what other children will do to your child for being a good human being for so many in our community that has gone to the way side and it is now more important to look fly and put yourself above all else and then the rest is to live a good life in plain site of your children so they to know how to walk in the way of the lord and that is all we can do.
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