Valentines Day -when they day to day aint good

[caribba]

If you have not been getting along with your spouse, do you still buy them something for valentines day? My husband and I are currently not on speaking terms and that in itself is a long story.  However, he bought me some chocolate and cheesecake for valentines day.  I really am not feeling appreciative of the gesture because we do not speak on a day to day basis, and I do not like the way he treats me on a daily basis.  Am I being ungrateful?  He just unceremoniously handed me the stuff and I said thanks but I kinda would have rathered he not bother.. I had bought him cologne for the occasion, but decided against giving it to him.

[Mishandia]

Marriage does not come with a hand book. Even if your not speaking doesn't mean he doesn't care. I would seek counseling and better myself and work on my marriage. I would I'veGave him the gift.

[Dabrutiful1]

Why buy it if you didn't want to give it...why stay if you even have to THINK abt how much you dispise the situation?

[sweetiepie81]

I would've appreciate the gesture & gave him his gift. If ur problems u need to seek counseling or keep it moving.

[Charli627]

Quoting Mishandia:

Marriage does not come with a hand book. Even if your not speaking doesn't mean he doesn't care. I would seek counseling and better myself and work on my marriage. I would I'veGave him the gift.

[.Peaches.]

Just because the two of you aren't speaking doesn't mean he doesn't care.

I mean, it kinda depends on the reason you two aren't speaking- if its not that serious, just let it go.

[caribba]

I bought the gift a while back before we started having this disagreement.  I feel like what's the purpose of giving the gift if there are bad feelings?  Anyway, I was just wondering if people still celebrated  valentines day when they were having issues.

[tthomas87]

Girl, everyone has issues! We all argue with our spouse about something at some point and have been where you are. No marriage is picture perfect but it sounds like he was trying to take the first step towards making amends. Don't let your pride and anger get in the way of working out your issues with your man. He took the first step now it's your turn. The Bible says to not let the sun go down on your anger if you can't let go of your anger and resentment it's time for counseling.