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BE HONEST did you use the 90 day rule with your husband?

Posted by on May. 1, 2012 at 1:16 PM
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LOL

I did----but that was a long time ago.

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CoolRelax
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:22 PM
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Naw.  I think I made it about a month.  It's never taken 90 days to get in my draws, lol.

RobinSun
by on May. 1, 2012 at 1:23 PM

At the time I didn't know anything about a 90 day rule.

I made him wait 4 months.



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sexychica25
by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:24 PM
Rme. Nope, for what? Waiting that long is going to solidify a lifelong commitment?
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inpraize
by on May. 1, 2012 at 1:35 PM
We talked on the phone for a little more than 90 days getting to know each other, but that was it.
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Dana267
by Group Mod on May. 1, 2012 at 1:39 PM

It's weird ----my husband and I met when I was 19----we dated on and off till I was 21---that is when he finally got some. The boyfriend I had (the Jewish guy was a high school sweetheart and it took him all of high school-I didn't have sex until I was in college.)

If I didn't really like you like you and it was just about sex --then I didn't wait. Weird huh?

Quoting CoolRelax:

Naw.  I think I made it about a month.  It's never taken 90 days to get in my draws, lol.


http://a8.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/304209_10150825901365230_520415229_21054590_61191322_n.jpg

Some people recognize the light but they can't handle the glare.

Dana267
by Group Mod on May. 1, 2012 at 1:39 PM

That's not so bad. He stuck around though. That counts for something!


Quoting RobinSun:

At the time I didn't know anything about a 90 day rule.

I made him wait 4 months.


http://a8.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc7/304209_10150825901365230_520415229_21054590_61191322_n.jpg

Some people recognize the light but they can't handle the glare.

mamaofficer
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:41 PM
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Did'nt know it exist, but I will try it in the future!!!!
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CoolRelax
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:50 PM
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Quoting Dana267:

It's weird ----my husband and I met when I was 19----we dated on and off till I was 21---that is when he finally got some. The boyfriend I had (the Jewish guy was a high school sweetheart and it took him all of high school-I didn't have sex until I was in college.)

If I didn't really like you like you and it was just about sex --then I didn't wait. Weird huh?

Quoting CoolRelax:

Naw.  I think I made it about a month.  It's never taken 90 days to get in my draws, lol.


Not weird at all.  I figured that out a looong time ago.  The fellas know it too, you should hear them complain about the wack logic that lets "no-good" men get in the panties while "good" men are wining and dining women trying to earn some draws. 

I understand it doesn't make much sense to them, but I look at it from the standpoint that for a good man I'm giving him something.  There is emotional connection, or I'm waiting to see if there is going to be one.  For a no-good man I'm "getting some" - no need for all those courtship games when I know I'm gonna kick you out and pretend I don't know you tomorrow, lol. 

With my husband, I took my time (ok, I took a month but work with me on this).  We spent every night together not closing the deal.  I felt like a school girl. 

CoolRelax
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:51 PM


Quoting sexychica25:

Rme. Nope, for what? Waiting that long is going to solidify a lifelong commitment?


RME - what is that?  I saw you use something else too that started with an R. Help a sista out.

mochachcolic
by Member on May. 1, 2012 at 1:56 PM

Didn't know about that rule at the time but I met Dh when I was 16 & we waited like a year.

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