BREAKING MOMMA'S HEART

It sounds like your mom needs you but just doesn't know how to come right out and say it. It's a kind of messed up way to let somebody know that you need their help but parents aren't always good at coming to their kids as adults (at least my mother wasn't initially).
It seems that you have 2 choices. One is to move with your mother even though you believe you'd be unahppy with that decision. The second would be to stay where you are. Ultimately it's up to you but I don't believe your mother will disown you because you stand on your own two feet. She might be mad at first but chances are she won't stay mad. Now before you hop on the "I'm grown and can take care of myself" bus (not saying you are....just a phrase) be sure that you have your plans lined up. Then make sure you have a Plan B and Plan C as well. While you've been working and saving for your own place have you worked out your budget? Do you have an idea of what utilites run for the size place you're looking for? Do you have provisions in case things go wrong one month? Is your job relatively steady and do you have a set amount that you can count on for paying your bills? The electric company is not trying to hear about how you didn't think it would be that much this summer or that your landlord didn't fix that window so you were cooling the neighborhood. The landlord won't be trying to hear about how you didn't get enough hours because you had to stay home with your sick child. Please know that I'm not slamming your decision (either way you decide). I just want you to be sure that you have your bases covered for the big move. Be very honest especially with yourself and be sure that you have what you need to do it alone. I don't know you at all but I believe that a 24 year old who is taking care of a child certainly can move out and take on full time ressponsibilities. Sometimes life doesn't work out the way we planned and that's why I advise making sure you have Plan B and Plan C too just in case they become necessary.
No matter what you decide I wish you all the best with the move, whether it's with your mother or to your own place.

Girl come to Sacramento there is a boat load of affordable/low income housing here.
Many land lords here in Sac run all occupants of the home credit. Me personally I would do b/c if your goals is to move out on your own you needto be in good standing SMUD and PG&E or pay high deposit.
- JanaeMarie
on May. 4, 2012 at 9:56 AM