For the last few weeks this has been on my mind. Me and my kids father have been together for 6 years. We are youn, but thats how long we have been a couple. Im 21 and he is 24. We have a 3 year old daughter and Im pregnant with our son. We live together. Have been for last 3 years and right now are in the process of moving to a bigger home. I am in cosmo school right now, and he is attending college. So our lives are busy. My questions is, Is it ok, that Im ok with the fact that he hasnt proposed to me? I do wear a ring on my right ring finger that he gaveme two years ago for valentines day as a promise ring. But that doesnt really matter to me. I may only be thinking about this so hard because since my baby is due in 8 weeks, everyone around me has been asking me are we getting married. And i can only say i dont know. So now what?
I think that i would like to be married, and im starting to feel like that if its gonna happen, then why are we still waiting. But at the same time, I dont even know what to say in that sit down convo.
Quoting Bunsmommy:
Do you want to get married? If yes, then you need to sit him down and have that conversation. If no, then do not allow others to pressure you and when you're both ready then you do it.
Try starting off with ..."are we ever getting married?" ... "do you want to get married?" ... then express to him how you feel about marriage.
Quoting KJones413:
I think that i would like to be married, and im starting to feel like that if its gonna happen, then why are we still waiting. But at the same time, I dont even know what to say in that sit down convo.
Quoting Bunsmommy:
Do you want to get married? If yes, then you need to sit him down and have that conversation. If no, then do not allow others to pressure you and when you're both ready then you do it.
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Quoting Bunsmommy:
Do you want to get married? If yes, then you need to sit him down and have that conversation. If no, then do not allow others to pressure you and when you're both ready then you do it.
Quoting mspecan_tan:Try starting off with ..."are we ever getting married?" ... "do you want to get married?" ... then express to him how you feel about marriage.
Quoting KJones413:
I think that i would like to be married, and im starting to feel like that if its gonna happen, then why are we still waiting. But at the same time, I dont even know what to say in that sit down convo.
Quoting Bunsmommy:
Do you want to get married? If yes, then you need to sit him down and have that conversation. If no, then do not allow others to pressure you and when you're both ready then you do it.
I think it's fine you're ok. There's no rush imo. The ring, the marriage license, the wedding, those things won't make him anymore committed to you than what he wants to be. And it sounds like he's pretty damn committed. I say let it go and let it flow unless it's something that is bothering you. Forget other folks and their questions. Only the two of you are in the relationship. If your comfortable just tell them you are comfortable and when/if marriage happens you'll embrace it but for now your not too much worried about it.
If you're ok with it that's all that really matters. Personally I would be terrified to do all that and not have at least an engagement ring though. At this point it sounds kinda like you're not that ok with it. Time to just ask him what's up.
Is it that time of year again?? o_O
- KJones413
on May. 8, 2012 at 9:59 AM