Whats your opinion on a man

[4kings1queen]

That has to with his friend(s) everyday? I noticed that my son dad is like this. Everyday he wake up with this plan to go hang out with a friend. He wants to be with me but im tired of relationships and this is why I left him in the first place. I cant stand this. Its childish and reaks pathetic to me. I mean damn I do get they need that male time but this is just sad. I started telling jim things like: Oh you hungry,shid tell homie to cook for ya,sex? Hell much as you with them I thought you didnt have a sex drive,etc. He thinks I started being mean and wanted out but I been grew up years ago. Whats your opinion?

[PurplWildFlower]

Too much of anything isn't good.

IMO - a man that is always hanging with this friends is a sign of immaturity, homosexuality, or your not the one. 

[4kings1queen]

Exactly!!!! I tried to write this in crayons so he can get it. I meam he works but gets off snd go hang with them so I left. But I never told him why. Its sad bcuz he has kids and in his 30's.

[memekisses]

 one of the reasons me and my ex split was him choosing his friends over me. i understand everyone has to have friends. friends are great. But family should be #1 priority.

[lilbit53009]

I've been in a constant battle with my SO over this. he's the same way. i'm honestly about to leave cause i can't stand it anymore. even his dad asks him if he's gay cause why else would you want to spend all day and night at your boys house when you have a beatiful woman ate home to cook, clean, and do whatever else you want.

he's 31 years old and a 3rd grade teacher. way too old be be hanging out till all hours of the night (even on week nights) with his boys.

[Pink_Sunshine]

I understand if they have close friends but you need to come priority to him at some point.

[wademom07]

yeah to much friend time can cause a lot of trouble in a relationship, he really needs to get his priorities straight.

[4kings1queen]

Yea,wtf is he doing out all night and got a career?

[krisdev67]

 IMO I think that men and women do this because the person that they're with isn't the person they want to be with RIGHT NOW.  You could be the ONE but right now he can't receive it because it's all about him.  For him to spend all of his free time with his boys tells me that the next step is cheating IF he hasn't already started it and he's grooming his boys to cover for him when he does.  I wouldn't necessarily say that he was gay right off the bat unless there are some questionable things going on.  But I definately would say to myself WHO ELSE is around when the "boys" are around.

I will say that once you get sick and tired of being sick and tired you'll make a move.  I've been there, he joined a motorcycle group and began hanging out and at first I was like WTF, then eventually I told him that he made a decision to be in the group and I have to make a decision if I'm going to be apart of it and allow him his moment or walk.  After some very careful thoughs, really paying attention to his actions and yeah I even went with him to a few functions just to get the group dynamic I decided it wasn't worth it.  It hurt but I no longer was worrying or wondering what he was doing and who he was doing it with.

[truly.a.taurus]

Been there and done that. I learned to set boundaries early on. Home is the first priority and must be taken care of. I love my bff to death but I'll be damned if I'm going to her house every day.

[tears30314]

Lmao @ I tried to write it in crayon for him! Dead but I agree especially the homosexuality and immaturity part lol! Maybe try to get through to him but if its just not workin then hey

Quoting 4kings1queen:

Exactly!!!! I tried to write this in crayons so he can get it. I meam he works but gets off snd go hang with them so I left. But I never told him why. Its sad bcuz he has kids and in his 30's.