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WHAT DO U THINK OF THIS ARTICLE..WHITELADY&BLACKLADY

Posted by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 6:44 PM
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White woman's opinion of black women & a brother's response

please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep! Thumbs up to this black man. Enjoy.

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she got what she asked for (and more)!!!

Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black females' attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too

materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes... I could go on and on; but right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us! Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.

Disgusted White Girl,

Somewhere in VA

RESPONSE:

Dear Jamie:

I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the

white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women and, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert De Niro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, still They Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women; I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why

do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman, Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children; someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offense taken, none given.

Signed, Black Royalty

by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 6:44 PM
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BarbadianBeauty
by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 6:51 PM
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Dayum! He got that ass.
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SHORTSHORT
by Bronze Member on Jul. 20, 2012 at 6:58 PM
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Quoting BarbadianBeauty:

Dayum! He got that ass.


he did..an i'm suprised with all the diversity in the world in this day an age she would even come out her mouth or even write in something like this.

krisdev67
by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:00 PM

 That's been circulating since ummm 2000...it's old...if not 2000 the early 2000's

inmybizz
by Platinum Member on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:01 PM


Quoting krisdev67:

 That's been circulating since ummm 2000...it's old...if not 2000 the early 2000's

yep..

Tish_Hughes
by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:04 PM

 These hos ain't got no manners.

TaLeahMB
by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:05 PM
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Daaaaaayum!!! He got in that ass. LOVE IT.
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SHORTSHORT
by Bronze Member on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:10 PM
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Quoting krisdev67:

 That's been circulating since ummm 2000...it's old...if not 2000 the early 2000's


ok i just read it for the first time..an i don't read sister2sister so i didn't know but old or not its a great read for me..

Tish_Hughes
by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:15 PM
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Now that I have actually read it, a lot of white women that I come across online have that attitude and some ignorant black men that I know IRL have the same attitude as the white woman. I don't know what the deal is witt the dudes, but seriously these delusional white Internet women....let me stop before I get rude.
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tears30314
by Bronze Member on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:20 PM
I read this on occasion...i is old but this stuff is opinion as is her statement though imo he did read her. No offense taken none given
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krisdev67
by on Jul. 20, 2012 at 7:33 PM
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 Yeah lol it is.  I will say this not all brothers that are married to WW think that way though.  However, IMO those that do do so because they have been turned down by the AA female of their choice or because they want that WW to think stupid about the AA female and then they're cheating on them with an AA female.  Shameful....my thing is this we're all women.  Why allow a man to run that stupid ass game down on us.  We as women no matter what race need to stand together as a united front.

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Quoting krisdev67:

 That's been circulating since ummm 2000...it's old...if not 2000 the early 2000's


ok i just read it for the first time..an i don't read sister2sister so i didn't know but old or not its a great read for me..

 

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