This issue has since been resolved but how would you feel??

[SexyDiva19]

 So a couple days ago this situation went down and it has since been resolved but I was wondering what you ladies thought about the situation?:

Backstory: My ex called me on the 2nd out of the blue claiming to love me and wanting to me. Why he called is still a mystery to me. It's been 7 years since we've  been together and he has since went on to have 2 more kids with 2 other women. We proceeded to text each other and over the course of several days we talked about possibly getting back together. He got mad me I refused to jump right back into a relationship with him.

 I am through with him (my ex) completely. Any lingering thoughts of hope and change I had about him/us are done for. If he wants to see his son so badly he can take me to court. He sent me a text saying that he wished I along with his son's mother would have had an abortion with our children because we (as mothers) are no good, trifling b!tches. I have not texted him back since and I won't even though he has sent me at last count 6 more messages. I refuse to talk to someone who "claims" to love me and yet wishes death upon their own child. He can call me every name in the book and I brush it off because it doesn't hurt me BUT when you talk about my child like that a child you "claim" you so call love and want to be around?

There is no forgetting that for me. I may forgive him for it but I won't be speaking to him again. He keeps saying he is the "father" of my child and he is BUT my child is not a child that he wanted so in essence he is not his child because if he would have had his way my son would not be here.

How would feel about getting this text message? How would you react? . His daughter's mother (there are 3 children, 3 mothers. 2 boys and 1 girl) and I have been messaging back and forth on FB and since she wants to run back and tell him everything I tell her, I sent her a message telling her that he can take me to court if he wants to see my son. Since he doesn't/didn't want my son, he can take me to court.

How would you have handled this and did I handle this correctly?

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[micka5]

 yesss my childrens father has told me he wished he never had children with me when he got upset but i didnt give a damn I told him right back at yo ass!! ( i mean i do love & want my kids but not with his ass...then i got to thinking if they were by somebody else they wouldnt be their same awesome selves so i said...f* it) lol

[Litlmama87]

How he felt back then is irrelevant, the child is here now, that's all that matters.

But he just came out of nowhere & said that, or were you both saying things to get under each others skin?

[PurplWildFlower]

It's a bit confusing but I would but an order of cs and visitation.

He was obviously running off pure emotion when he sent those ugly words.

Was he ever violent? Do you think he will harm one of his children?

[SexyDiva19]

 He was mad at me because I said I wanted to take things slow and not rush back into a relationship. He called me some names and then said that he wished I would have aborted my son so that he would never have to deal with me again.

Quoting Litlmama87:

How he felt back then is irrelevant, the child is here now, that's all that matters.

But he just came out of nowhere & said that, or were you both saying things to get under each others skin?

 

[SexyDiva19]

 Sorry that its so confusing. I went back and edited to help make it less confusing. Um he is on cs although he doesn't pay it and we have never went to court for visitation/custody but my son has been with me since the day he was born.

Yes he has been violent and it led to restraining orders, assault charges etc. 3 long years of B.S. basically. I don't know how he is with his children. He has never been around my son long enough to see them really interact but since I know my son is a little on the hyper/active side I don't know that they would mesh very well together.

Quoting PurplWildFlower:

It's a bit confusing but I would but an order of cs and visitation.

He was obviously running off pure emotion when he sent those ugly words.

Was he ever violent? Do you think he will harm one of his children?

 

[hopealways4019]

My kids father text me too, when i reject his advances, he start calling me horrible names. Showing his true colors. The reason were not together anymore. Anyway he dirt off my shoulders.

[queensweet]

Its best just to move on with your life. People like that you have to treat like they are inmaterial and invisible.

[KymberleeAnn]

Bump.

[SexyDiva19]

 Yep and that's exactly what I plan on doing. Thanks

Quoting queensweet:

Its best just to move on with your life. People like that you have to treat like they are inmaterial and invisible.

 

[queensweet]

Your welcome. Now that I think of it, there is the possibility that he only wanted to get back with you so you would drop the child support case. I mean why else would he want to speed things up in getting back together, then get mad when you want to take it slow, and then say all those hateful things? I thought my son's father was coming around more because he wanted to be a better father. I found out from son that all along he was guilt tripping him to come and live with him (When my son did stay with him for 2 months, he was treated badly by everyone in that house including dear ol' dad). This explained why he asked me to forward the cs checks to him and why he wanted to file the papers to switch it to him. When my son wasnt living with him anymore and he did not get his way about the cs, he pretty much ignored again. I thought he had changed. I was really angry because I felt he made a fool out of me. Nonetheless, I was being the bigger person (as usual) and told the court to give him credit for the 2 months. smdh. I find that these days a lot of men are snakes and deadbeat dads.

Quoting SexyDiva19:

 Yep and that's exactly what I plan on doing. Thanks

Quoting queensweet:

Its best just to move on with your life. People like that you have to treat like they are inmaterial and invisible.