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Is a post secondary education optional for your children? (kind of SFAG)

Posted by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 7:57 PM
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Do you expect your children to complete high school?

Once they have graduated high school, do you expect them to continue their education by going on to obtain a college or university degree? 

Is this optional or mandatory in your house? 

Explain your reasoning why?

I have some things to get ready for tomorrow for work but will be on later to read the responses.

 

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SexyDiva19
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:21 PM
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 I do expect my son to complete high school. I was16 when I dropped out of high school but I went to community college and got my "adult" high school diploma and graduated at 17. Completing high school is not an option no matter the reasons behind it.

As far as college that's up to him entirely. If he wants to go good, if not then as long as he has a job and is contributing financially to the household then fine by me. :)

 

MomRocs1102
by Gold Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:41 PM
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I wont force college on my  children its not for everyone i have seem parents force their children and they resent them and fail at it.  I will present them with options 4 yr college, 2 yr college,training program,Military, or Job and they have one year to save up and get their own place.  We have already decided this as husband and wife and were sticking to it.  They dont have to follow everyone elses path but they do need to establish a future. 

inmybizz
by Platinum Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:42 PM
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HS and University mandatory.

Simply3
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:47 PM
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Yes and yes..they don't have to attend a four year college unless they want to, but we would like for them to atleast go to a vocational/technical college.

Bunsmommy
by Ruby Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:47 PM
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AMEN! 

Quoting inmybizz:

HS and University mandatory.

My reasoning is simple, I did it and so did his father. In my opinion one of the easiest things to do is graduate from high school, apply yourself and recognize that you can do anything and that as far as I'm concerned failure is not an option and not obtaining a high school diploma is failure! 

ebbierowe
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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Yes they have to complete high school. I would like them to go to college but if they choose a different path ie military, a legal career that doesn't require college or to go to some type of vocational school that is fine.

I want them to be able to support themselves and what ever family they choose have, but I also want them to be happy in what they are doing.
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SunFlower700
by Gold Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 10:30 PM

To me a post secondary education whether they choose college or university is mandatory.  I also realize that I can't force them to go, but I do encourage them to continue their education after high school.  I will also encourage them to go to college for something that will help them to obtain a good paying career when they graduate.  Things like music and drama are not going to land them a job after school.  A teaching degree is an extremely well paying career here, but the country is so oversaturated with teachers and students graduating with teaching degrees that jobs in this career are impossible anywhere throughout the country.

If they choose not to continue with a post secondary education, they will have one year to find a job, save up, and get a place of their own.  They will learn quickly within that one year that with only a high school education, they will have a very hard time making a good paying wage and will find themself struggling.  I don't care, they still have to be out of my place by that one year deadline. No sympathy from me.

I'm lucky that they choose to go to college and university after high school.

MsCryStyle
by Silver Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 10:51 PM
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High school is not even up for discussion in my house. As far as college is concerned, if I can give up my life for her, she can give me at least four years of hers.... she will thank me later.
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mamadee1971
by Dionne on Feb. 17, 2013 at 11:10 PM
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My 4 year old son wants to be a Police Officer; my 6 year old daughter, a Doctor, so I will continue to encourage them the importance of school and studying.  I will continue to check over their homework, help them with literacy skills, etc.  So, finishing secondary school is mandatory and going to college is neccessary. 

I refuse to raise drug dealers,drug users, future inmates, strippers, porn stars, slackers,freeloaders and anything else that does not and will not "jive" with me. And I don't want them be "job hoppers" and struggling. So, I keep encouraging them the importance of getting a good education.  Just being honest.graduate

SunFlower700
by Gold Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 11:14 PM

 I couldn't have worded mine any better.  This, 100% this.


Quoting mamadee1971:

My 4 year old son wants to be a Police Officer; my 6 year old daughter, a Doctor, so I will continue to encourage them the importance of school and studying.  I will continue to check over their homework, help them with literacy skills, etc.  So, finishing secondary school is mandatory and going to college is neccessary. 

I refuse to raise drug dealers,drug users, future inmates, strippers, porn stars, slackers,freeloaders and anything else that does not and will not "jive" with me. And I don't want them be "job hoppers" and struggling. So, I keep encouraging them the importance of getting a good education.  Just being honest.graduate


 

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