Have you ever prayed for God to change your heart against something? If so what was it?
How long did it take for you to feel differently about it?
I'm struggling with a friend who keeps going back to a loser and it makes me look at her like she's an idiot and she has low self esteem. I do not hang around women who are not confident and allow themselves to be abused----but this is a dear friend and I know she needs me.
I look at her as pathetic and I don't want to do that because I know that God doesn't want us to feel that kind of contempt in our hearts. It's like my one pet peeve is a wimpy whiny woman who allows herself to be abused until she has NO self esteem.
Some people recognize the light but they can't handle the glare.
yes..but it was to remove the ill feelings that i had for my kids daddy...i really hated him to the point i was praying & going to church regular bc i knew it was wrong to feel that way..i can t tell you how long it took but it felt like forever..it just went away one day & i havent even realized how past this i was until i read this!! just keep praying & whenever u feel those negative feeling then try changing it to a positive thgt about her...or something else...good luck honey...its good that you recognize it & want to do something about it bc its soo easy to stay negative & dwell on it but you are doing the right thing
No I haven't.
I have friends I feel the same way about. I just look at it as, its their life and they'll eventually see what's going on and fix it. May take a while, but it will happen.
If its something that I've learned, its be careful what you ask for.
For example, a lot of people will pray for patience. Bad idea. Because God will start to place things, situations, and people in your life to test how much you want the virtue of patience. It took me a few years to figure that out.
Asking God to change your heart won't work if you're not living a Godly lifestyle- you're either in or you're out, there's no in between.
In saying that, if she's truly your friend and dedicated to helping her, the first thing you need to do is change the way you look at her. She's not pathetic, she suffers from low self-esteem. If you've never been there, you really have no idea what that feels like, but its a very low and dark place, made darker and lower by the amount of people who look down on you and talk about you. The way you talk about her doesn't make me think that you want to continue this friendship. So if you really feel that way, then let it go, and let her make room in her life for someone who's going to truly be there for her and help her through her struggles.
Some of us come through confidence and higher self-esteem through bad relationships and life. Not everyone starts out that way....its great if you do, but it doesn't make you pitiful if you haven't.
Really, I felt a little better right after praying for Him to change my heart. I have that same pet peeve about weakness but that friend probably needs a friend like you that will make her accountable for her actions and face the truth
Quoting TrulyMicka:yes..but it was to remove the ill feelings that i had for my kids daddy...i really hated him to the point i was praying & going to church regular bc i knew it was wrong to feel that way..i can t tell you how long it took but it felt like forever..it just went away one day & i havent even realized how past this i was until i read this!! just keep praying & whenever u feel those negative feeling then try changing it to a positive thgt about her...or something else...good luck honey...its good that you recognize it & want to do something about it bc its soo easy to stay negative & dwell on it but you are doing the right thing
I don't operate the same way as she does. I would rather be alone than to have someone mistreat me.
Quoting .Peaches.:If its something that I've learned, its be careful what you ask for.
For example, a lot of people will pray for patience. Bad idea. Because God will start to place things, situations, and people in your life to test how much you want the virtue of patience. It took me a few years to figure that out.
Asking God to change your heart won't work if you're not living a Godly lifestyle- you're either in or you're out, there's no in between.
In saying that, if she's truly your friend and dedicated to helping her, the first thing you need to do is change the way you look at her. She's not pathetic, she suffers from low self-esteem. If you've never been there, you really have no idea what that feels like, but its a very low and dark place, made darker and lower by the amount of people who look down on you and talk about you. The way you talk about her doesn't make me think that you want to continue this friendship. So if you really feel that way, then let it go, and let her make room in her life for someone who's going to truly be there for her and help her through her struggles.
Some of us come through confidence and higher self-esteem through bad relationships and life. Not everyone starts out that way....its great if you do, but it doesn't make you pitiful if you haven't.
Some people recognize the light but they can't handle the glare.
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on Feb. 22, 2013 at 2:04 PM