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im so over this

Posted by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 11:04 AM
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In one of my previous posts "how would you react"
I explained how my boyfriend had text his neice
about him getting a DNA test
ladies I've been pregnant forever he's been buying
all of this little girls clothes,cribs,stroller carseat
even went as far as decorating a room for her?
Now at 37- weeks he's like lets get it done before
she gets here??????
-"i know this Mf****** isn't about to propose to me before i give birth"
and its so late in my pregnancy.
I could see if i was a ratchet female or we had cheating issues
in the past but;Never. Its him saying he knows women who've
done it before and family members.??
WHAT I AM.GUILTY OF IS GETTING PREGNANT EARLY AND THIS IS
PUNISHMENT. THIS MAN IS TAKING THAT ALL THE WAY MAKING
A FOOL OUT OF ME TO MYSELF.WITH SUCH EMBARRASSING MAURY
POVICH BS!

-On another note;
I still haven't met his 12 year old daughter;she doesn't know he's expecting
another child from the text i read he said he"ll tell her when. he gets a DNA test.
HE NEVER GOT A DNA TEST WITH HIS FIRST CHILDS MOTHER BUT WEEKS AFTER SHE GAVE
BIRTH SHE WAS.COMING HOME WITH HICKIES ON HER NECK????
this was over 10 years ago they've been seperated. But FYI. On Valentine's Day
she sent him a Happy Valentines Day Text; she's never said.anything.questioning
unless she does that every year.I Dont know if she might have a part to
play in this but something is so odd i cnt come to.grips on it.

Anyway- i looked into the prenatal DNA.and its $1,000+ so were going to have to wait
until she makes her way in a few weeks. Now my breaking.point is. If he doesn't sign
the birth certificate since he's so."unsure" our relationship is done and we can
proceed to the DNA testing but there's no coming back fro
.that. Because shell literally be depreived of her last name which should have been his. And we
all know changing anything on a birth certificate costs.

I can't even think of a reason of why im going through all of this with my first
child. I've been a good woman. But its like im being punished for getting
pregnant.Please give some support or insight on this situation.

*Please no negative comments about me/already in an emotion state.

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.Peaches.
by Le Chatte Noire on Mar. 1, 2013 at 12:38 PM
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What kind of relationship is it without some kind of trust? Its obvious he DOESN'T trust you, or he did, and other people (namely, family) got in his head about the baby possibly not being his.

What exactly have you talked to him about? Because all this is what you need to be telling him NOW, not when the baby gets here, you're going to have your hands extremely full by then. He needs to either decide to get on board, or get off at his stop.

Not signing the birth certificate doesn't mean you can't give your DD his last name- my ex husband didn't sign my DD's birth certs till years later. My dad never signed mine or my sister's because he kept forgetting, and my parents were married.

All I can say is that, given your current situation, you REALLY need to be sure that who's last name you want your daughter to have.

Delila12
by Silver Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 12:44 PM

I'd just to ahead and get it done. At least you'll proof, that way he's can't escape responsibility if y'all don't work out. 

Sorry you're going through this.

dahlya21
by on Mar. 1, 2013 at 3:59 PM
Quoting .Peaches.:

What kind of relationship is it without some kind of trust? Its obvious he DOESN'T trust you, or he did, and other people (namely, family) got in his head about the baby possibly not being his.

What exactly have you talked to him about? Because all this is what you need to be telling him NOW, not when the baby gets here, you're going to have your hands extremely full by then. He needs to either decide to get on board, or get off at his stop.

Not signing the birth certificate doesn't mean you can't give your DD his last name- my ex husband didn't sign my DD's birth certs till years later. My dad never signed mine or my sister's because he kept forgetting, and my parents were married.

All I can say is that, given your current situation, you REALLY need to be sure that who's last name you want your daughter to have.





Off Topic;I LOVE THAT BANG!!!!!!
Anyway; Thank you so much for the feedback.
Obviously he doesn't trust me...Clearly funny thing
is I never did anything to lose his trust maybe that's
y he tries to do stuff for me like pay my bills and has
bought her stuff to not feel as guilty...but like u said
get on board or get off at your stop. I personally met his family
his older sister acknowledges the baby as her neice but
who knows maybe family is on his head. but that'll
be something he"ll learn from. after this.

I did tell him that this test is going to affect our relationship
but i respect his decision for wanting to be sure
but ill be forced to be unsure about the relationship from
there on out.
He got upset about me being upset after the test are done
as if i was being difficult or unfair
During our relationships he's always talked
about how women have been untrustworthy and all
that so if we dont work out it'll be because of him
he can run and tell that story. Its about time
anyway for me to stop proving that im the only one
that wants this relationship. Because here i am
still being
UNTRUSTed; them hoes that hurt him decieved him
aren't paying the price or going through the battle of
gaining his trust so y should i. With a baby i need
to care for.and focus on.

And your right im sure about her having his last name
because i know he's a good father and her father.
Thanks for telling me that he can always sign her birth certificate
that really made me feel better- because i dont want her to feel
out of place.

hopealways4019
by Silver Member on Mar. 1, 2013 at 4:41 PM
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My kids father knew I was faithful, but he always insisted on getting a DNA. I didn't mind, because #1 I knew he was father. #2 I didn't have to pay for test. He was just insecure and delusional.
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grandmotherof6
by Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 3:02 PM

Men are all ways pulling this crap when they think they have to pay child support,  if,   it is  his you should not worry or  be bother by his stupid acting, DNA will tell everything, that stress is unhealthy for you and the baby,  the way he is acting you might want to ? if you want him in your life after this!!!

grandmotherof6
by Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 3:10 PM

I don't know what state you live in, years ago they would not put the baby's name in the father's  last name unless you are married here in the south,  and if you are married the baby automaticly goes in the father last name, but what's  a name?  This is the 21th century, nobody care about that crap nowadays!!!  If he don't sigh use your name!!! My daughter is not married, the fathers sign the birth certification, but they all wear her maided name. all 4 children!!!

Tish_Hughes
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:26 PM
My daughter's dad never asked for a test from me which I thought as funny because we lived a hour away from each other a d only saw each other on weekends. He never doubted she was his, though. Too bad he doesn't know her name, LMFAO.
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rayroe2
by on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:39 PM

 if you want to just have some fun with it rite-aid sales a dna test kit...I don't know if works before or not I just know they have one.

CoolRelax
by Silver Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:40 PM

Hmmm, perhaps his family IS getting in his head.  And it may have nothing to do with you, and something to do with his piss poor history of selecting women. 

 

BeautyFull
by Member on Mar. 3, 2013 at 10:43 PM
Dont hurt your head. Let him get the test. You just keep smiling. When he get them results and it say he is the father, the respect you will get you couldnt earn it no other way.
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