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Dating rules? *UPDATE*

Posted by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 1:47 PM
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 Ok so this may seem like a crazy question but as far as dating goes when you 1st meet someone and decide to go out who should pay? I met a guy about 2 nights ago at work and we exchanged numbers and we've been texting off and on. He's 25, no kids, not married and he is a security supervisor for a company. Anyways, he texted me last night and asked me when we were going to chill so I'm thinking about going to the movies this weekend because I want to see Tyler Perry's new movie "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor"? We haven't made solid plans just yet but I was wondering about some things?

Thing is I don't date or go out. I forgot how the rules work. Paying for things and just being a gf in general. We are just talking so we'll see where things go but I mean its been 8 yrs and I am not a 15 year old anymore you know? 1st outing should you go Dutch or the guy pay? I've never been comfortable with guys paying for stuff anyways because my mother taught me if you allow a guy to pay for things he'll expect something in return (anyone ever heard that?)

Does this post make any sense? lol I am sleep deprived after working all week and only sleep 2 or 3 hours a day. I should be sleeping right now but I got home this morning and took a 2 hour nap before clocking in and so now I'm not sleepy but 9pm comes quick so I guess I'll just lay down and rest my eyes or something? Thanks ladies.

UPDATE: So we ended up texting last night and I ended up texting him and asking him what his definition of "chilling" was and him if going to the movies was cool. He texted back with lol and of course. So we're  on the same page I think.

Do people go to the movies on Sundays? He called me last night on my lunch break and we talked. He doesn't smoke or club and he only drinks socially. He doesn't have a FB and he has 2 jobs. He says he is a security supervisor and then he works for the Central Prison. I wonder why he has 2 jobs if he has no responsibilities? Maybe debt? IDK. I don't know enough about him to know if I want to go out tomorrow night but we'll see I guess.

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inmybizz
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 2:18 PM
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If a man asks me out the expectation is he will pay. If a man says "lets chill" that to me implies we are just friends and separate checks.

Sweetie1216
by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 2:26 PM

I think the man should pay, unless I ask him out than I'll pay..

rayroe2
by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 2:29 PM
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I'll offer to pay and if says yes that's a no go.
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Omokirk
by Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 2:33 PM
He asked you out. Let him pay
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leaniece
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 3:10 PM
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I'd bring money just incase he don't pay... Then I would decline the next date.
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TishHughes
by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 3:16 PM
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Quoting inmybizz:

If a man asks me out the expectation is he will pay. If a man says "lets chill" that to me implies we are just friends and separate checks.

 "Let's chill" translate into "when we gon' fuck"

LMFAO!! Seriously, though.

TishHughes
by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 3:17 PM
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Whoever is asking should pay.

mspecan_tan
by Silver Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 4:03 PM

 I was thinking the samething .... Lets chill means he wants to come over and try his luck, it does not mean going on a date.

Quoting TishHughes:

 

Quoting inmybizz:

If a man asks me out the expectation is he will pay. If a man says "lets chill" that to me implies we are just friends and separate checks.

 "Let's chill" translate into "when we gon' fuck"

LMFAO!! Seriously, though.

 

Bunsmommy
by Ruby Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 4:10 PM
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No, seriously it does! Usually the conversation goes something like this;
Him~ so when we gonna chill?
Her~ whatchu mean?
Him~ I mean when can we spend a little time together. You can come to my place and we watch a movie or sumthin'!
Next thing you know dude talking about he got a t-shirt and some footies if you want to get comfortable, leading to the bs play for ass!


Quoting TishHughes:

 


Quoting inmybizz:


If a man asks me out the expectation is he will pay. If a man says "lets chill" that to me implies we are just friends and separate checks.


 "Let's chill" translate into "when we gon' fuck"


LMFAO!! Seriously, though.

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mspecan_tan
by Silver Member on Mar. 29, 2013 at 4:11 PM
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 "when you gone let me fuck Ms Parker" ..... (in my smokey voice)

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