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 Ok so this may seem like a crazy question but as far as dating goes when you 1st meet someone and decide to go out who should pay? I met a guy about 2 nights ago at work and we exchanged numbers and we've been texting off and on. He's 25, no kids, not married and he is a security supervisor for a company. Anyways, he texted me last night and asked me when we were going to chill so I'm thinking about going to the movies this weekend because I want to see Tyler Perry's new movie "Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor"? We haven't made solid plans just yet but I was wondering about some things?

Thing is I don't date or go out. I forgot how the rules work. Paying for things and just being a gf in general. We are just talking so we'll see where things go but I mean its been 8 yrs and I am not a 15 year old anymore you know? 1st outing should you go Dutch or the guy pay? I've never been comfortable with guys paying for stuff anyways because my mother taught me if you allow a guy to pay for things he'll expect something in return (anyone ever heard that?)

Does this post make any sense? lol I am sleep deprived after working all week and only sleep 2 or 3 hours a day. I should be sleeping right now but I got home this morning and took a 2 hour nap before clocking in and so now I'm not sleepy but 9pm comes quick so I guess I'll just lay down and rest my eyes or something? Thanks ladies.

UPDATE: So we ended up texting last night and I ended up texting him and asking him what his definition of "chilling" was and him if going to the movies was cool. He texted back with lol and of course. So we're  on the same page I think.

Do people go to the movies on Sundays? He called me last night on my lunch break and we talked. He doesn't smoke or club and he only drinks socially. He doesn't have a FB and he has 2 jobs. He says he is a security supervisor and then he works for the Central Prison. I wonder why he has 2 jobs if he has no responsibilities? Maybe debt? IDK. I don't know enough about him to know if I want to go out tomorrow night but we'll see I guess.

by on Mar. 29, 2013 at 1:47 PM
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leaniece
by Platinum Member on Mar. 30, 2013 at 1:10 PM
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"Lol"?...Bring some mace just in case. 😏
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waitin4u
by Bronze Member on Mar. 30, 2013 at 3:28 PM

Update- if you don't know him well enough to wonder all these things please drive yourself to the movies and dont show him where you live at yet. As far as a movie date on Sunday if his work schedule allows him to only be off that day then I'd understand I couldn't think of any other reason it would be that strange.

inmybizz
by Platinum Member on Mar. 30, 2013 at 4:26 PM

Before going on the date why not get to know him a bit..what's the rush to "go out". Have a few phone conversations before you commit. 

TishHughes
by on Mar. 30, 2013 at 5:17 PM

 People go on dates all days of the week. At least he didn't say that he wanted you to go back to his place to watch a movie. And some people are seriously on this "paper chase" so that could be why he is working 2 jobs. Some people actually work for what they want instead of going around and just saying "I want this" and do nothing to get it. Go out, have fun. With NOOOOO DRAMA!!!!

simple smile

SexyDiva19
by Silver Member on Mar. 30, 2013 at 5:59 PM

 No rush at least not on my part. Today is Saturday so I think I met him Tuesday or Wednesday night? He text me about 2 days ago and asked when we were going to chill so I suggested this weekend seeing as that I want to go see the new Tyler Perry movie so I figured why not?

How soon after meeting someone do you (general you not just you personally) go out? IDK how this goes lol All of my relationships (2 and 2 fwb's) with the exception of one, I have met the guys and gotten to know them in my environment. My son's father was my high school sweetheart and since we hung out every day, I got to know him very well (or so I thought) my ex I met him through over job we both worked together.

Quoting inmybizz:

Before going on the date why not get to know him a bit..what's the rush to "go out". Have a few phone conversations before you commit. 

 

TrulyMicka
by Gold Member on Mar. 30, 2013 at 8:22 PM
ROTFL...at that last sentence girl...Wheewww!!! I needed that!!

Quoting Amomslyfe:

You've been texting for a couple of days so I think you have an idea of what his definition of "chill" is and if you guys do go out to a movie if he will pay. It seems like he has a decent job and since it seems like he initiated the "date" and the courting then I would assume he would pay. Definitely bring money in case he doesn't so you don't miss the movie :)

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