Baby mamas vs. wives and the fool in the middle
Okay so I am a little bit perturbed by an article I read.
I am not sure what to think about this Cris Bosh situation but this shit really pisses me off.
So Bosh has a baby with his AA girlfriend at the beginning of his career but doesn't love her enough to marry her. He dumps her and MARRIES some non AA chick.
The baby mama wants more money in child support and to maintain the life style she was used to before she was dumped.
Bosh decides he wants FULL custody of their daughter so he doesn't have to pay.
The problems I have with this:
1. People are saying it's the Baby mamas fault for having a baby out of wedlock with him----she has to basically take what she can get. I don't think that's fair.
2. WTF does he want full custody? Why take her away from her mother??? His ass isn't the one who is going to be the child's caregiver!! It's his wife! He travels all the time how is that fair to the child or the child's mother? To me he is taking everything from the child's mother----(he didn't think enough of her to marry her and now you want to ALSO take my child away and let the NEW wife parent her?
3. People are saying that the baby mama needs to work and that his money shouldn't be taking care of her rent and leisurely lifestyle---if she wanted that she should've been a wife and not just a baby mama. I resent this because why shouldn't she have the freedom to give his/their child the best----so she can be available for their daughter and she doesn't have to send their child to others while she maintains a 9-5?
I am married with children BUT this really pisses me off. It doesn't make it any easier a pill to swallow for me that the AA mother was fine enough to impregnante but not enough to marry. Yeah, yeah, yeah----i mentioned race again because it's what I do. LOL
It is easier to BUILD strong children then to REPAIR broken men. Frederick Douglass.