Anyways its the summer time and Smooch mom is begging for her. I have not sent her to stay with my mom since OCT. There was an incident where the police were involved, my child went missing and had to be retrieved and my moms excuse was "i needed a break i wasnt in my right mind". She has been back to visit but not while i wasnt in the city.
In Jan she signed over her parental rights and now we are still in the middle of adoption paperwork, homestudy, etc, needless to say she doesnt have any rights though.
She wants Smooch to call her mom. She wants the mom name without mom responsibilities. I have invited her to my house many times with offers of free round trip transportation. Shes made a million excuses why she cant visit.
The sister i had custody of last year is buck wild at 10yrs old and violent towards Smooch, my mom is afraid of her so rarely corrects the behaviors. So while Smooch says she misses her very much once she gets there shes being physically assaulted by someone twice her size!
My mom lives in a 1 bedroom...Taniha sleeps on the sofa. I told my mom i did not want Smooch sleeping in the bed with she and her boyfriend and if Smooch came i was sending her with a cot, by the way the convo went im sure she will be reluctant to use it!
She hasnt contributed a dime at all towards smooch. No christmas..no anything! Na-da-damn thing!
im tired of having to go out of my way and out of my finances for her to see Smooch when she refuses to make herself available for ANYTHING!
My hubby said smooch came to him a few times saying she misses her mom and wants to visit so bad etc and he feels evil saying no.
I dont feel evil..frankly im sick of sending her where im uncomfortable sending her and i feel like its my job as her mother to protect her and sending her to dc with her bio mom for 17 days just feels like a no go for me.
I want to give my mom an ultimatitum. Either u start atleast coming here every other visit or you wont see her at all. My husband says smooch will resent us. I dont want to be evil but im tired if sharing my child with this ubgrateful lazy woman!