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Does your family believe in adhd

Posted by on Oct. 8, 2015 at 7:40 AM
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My daughter has been diagnosed with adhd. She is 8 now. I started having trouble with her when she started kindergarten. She was jumping and running away and other stuff. Mu mother and everyone else in my family told me to whoop her ass. I tried that and it didnt work. Tried time outs and removal of all toys it still didnt work. She finally had a strong black teacher which is what my family said she needed and while she did better she still struggle. So i took n her to a psychiatrist and she was given medicine. Now she has calmed down and does a whole lot better in school. But when i go around my family they still have comments about letting them people in my business. Did anyone else have problems with their family about mental health issues?
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luvthagirl
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 11:56 AM
Absolutely, it's a very serious and unfortunately many times overlooked or even recognized as a mental illness, especially in the black community.
Growing up my Mom had a close friend who's son was schizophrenic, she told everyone including her own family that nothing was wrong with him "he was just wild & ignorant as Hell" like his Dad. Years later my Mom found out that he had been diagnosed as a kid but his Mom denied it & never came to terms with it, and choose to take him to Church instead. Well, he's dead now. He committed murder/suicide at the age of 33
ksbondgirl
by Bond's Girl on Oct. 8, 2015 at 1:09 PM
Very sad.

Quoting luvthagirl: Absolutely, it's a very serious and unfortunately many times overlooked or even recognized as a mental illness, especially in the black community.
Growing up my Mom had a close friend who's son was schizophrenic, she told everyone including her own family that nothing was wrong with him "he was just wild & ignorant as Hell" like his Dad. Years later my Mom found out that he had been diagnosed as a kid but his Mom denied it & never came to terms with it, and choose to take him to Church instead. Well, he's dead now. He committed murder/suicide at the age of 33
Savey228
by Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 3:04 PM
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I believe ADHD is being diagnosed alot more commonly now. I believe it's due to our fast paced world but I'm hearing this case show up alot more in many children these days. Yes my family is the same way. They don't believe in mental health issues or therapy or getting any help. Idk how I feel. If I were in your situation I would look at everything like you did as well because it hits home when it's your child. If they believe it or not, the public would keep saying the child needs some type of help. My old coworker has a son that's 4 or maybe 3 and he was transferred to 3 different preschools/daycares now they want him out of that county. He is African American as well but doesn't know what else to do. I'm not sure if he's using medication for his son or not but that's a scary situation. That's great the medication is helping your child. For the black community it is an issue that has to be taken more seriously because of what "luvthegirl" said prior definitly.
Serenity7
by Member on Oct. 8, 2015 at 3:11 PM
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 Sadly the black community in general. Has a very hard time accepting mental illness

 

jinxmom
by jinx on Oct. 9, 2015 at 9:13 AM
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My dd was diagnosed at 10 but imho I knew she was different from her peers.  Lawd I laugh now b/c it was rough.  I adopted her when she was 4 mos.  She is now 21 (med free) on meds at 11 (very difficult decision) on and off until 16, then 18 for a little bit.  I will tell anyone what she told me when she was 12 "ma, I just want to be my normal, hyper self" [sigh] I love her to pieces for that truth and truth be told she is her normal self.  She doesn't know anything else.  Like others have said its like a curse to mention mental, neurological disorders esp in the black community.  There in lies the problem.  Heck no one asks for this it is what it is.  Is there help? yes seek it and ppl will be helped.  One problem is is that ppl think its their fault or want to lay blame or you got that from your dad's side or vv.  Stop the blame and deal with the situation and our kids, loved ones will be better for it.  The help is there seek it and live.  Oops I just get so..........b/c ppl just treat each other like a piece of .@3j( ugh  We all have issues, problems and concerns its just how you handle your business.  We all are a work in progress.  God is still working on and in me.  

Sorry as I rambled on but adhd is not a death sentence.  Once its understood esp by those who have it they are the most creative, imaginative, loving ppl there is.  hugs mama your dd will be great just continue to support her and have her work with the behavior specialist.  Also, no don't take it personally.  Love her through b/c its not going to be easy.  

ashleyrenee24
by Member on Oct. 9, 2015 at 9:22 AM
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I'm in the same boat as you family wise. My son was diagnosed with ADHD over the summer. So far, this school has been a large improvement over past school years. My family thinks it's a conspiracy to put black, strong willed boys on medicine.

Before his diagnoses, we tried the spanking, time out, taking away toys and privileges, etc and none of them worked to improve symptoms of ADHD.
helen491
by Member on Oct. 9, 2015 at 11:43 AM
I love her to death. She is so sweet and she finds creative ways to do everything. My family just likes to talk about my parenting skills saying im not strick enough. But i have 3 other kids who are well behaved and one started college this year. The doctors wanted to give her medicine at 4 but i listened to my family. Now im doing whats best for her and im seeing a lot of improvement.

Quoting jinxmom:

My dd was diagnosed at 10 but imho I knew she was different from her peers.  Lawd I laugh now b/c it was rough.  I adopted her when she was 4 mos.  She is now 21 (med free) on meds at 11 (very difficult decision) on and off until 16, then 18 for a little bit.  I will tell anyone what she told me when she was 12 "ma, I just want to be my normal, hyper self" [sigh] I love her to pieces for that truth and truth be told she is her normal self.  She doesn't know anything else.  Like others have said its like a curse to mention mental, neurological disorders esp in the black community.  There in lies the problem.  Heck no one asks for this it is what it is.  Is there help? yes seek it and ppl will be helped.  One problem is is that ppl think its their fault or want to lay blame or you got that from your dad's side or vv.  Stop the blame and deal with the situation and our kids, loved ones will be better for it.  The help is there seek it and live.  Oops I just get so..........b/c ppl just treat each other like a piece of .@3j( ugh  We all have issues, problems and concerns its just how you handle your business.  We all are a work in progress.  God is still working on and in me.  

Sorry as I rambled on but adhd is not a death sentence.  Once its understood esp by those who have it they are the most creative, imaginative, loving ppl there is.  hugs mama your dd will be great just continue to support her and have her work with the behavior specialist.  Also, no don't take it personally.  Love her through b/c its not going to be easy.  

CampHarris
by on Oct. 9, 2015 at 11:47 AM
Sorry to pop in here, cause I'm white, but it popped up in my active posts, lol.

For what it's worth, I have ADHD. My family has never believed it exists. Even my DF doesn't believe it exists. Which is funny since he lives with me - of all people he should know.

It's beyond frustrating.
PrEgGoSaUrUs
by Silver Member on Oct. 9, 2015 at 12:22 PM
I do because I know the science behind it. My husband on the other hand believes adhd comes from not being disciplined, "nothing an ass whooping can't cure" his exact words.
PrEgGoSaUrUs
by Silver Member on Oct. 9, 2015 at 12:24 PM
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It's ok to be white and apart of this group, stay awhile.

Quoting CampHarris: Sorry to pop in here, cause I'm white, but it popped up in my active posts, lol.

For what it's worth, I have ADHD. My family has never believed it exists. Even my DF doesn't believe it exists. Which is funny since he lives with me - of all people he should know.

It's beyond frustrating.
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