I am black and my husband is hispanic. His dad loves me to death, but I've had several problems with his mom. When we first started dating, he told me that his mom had always taught him that black people were cool to be friends with but not cool to date, so you could imagine her reaction when he brought me home to 'Meet the parents', and don't even get me started about when she found out we were getting married. My husband and I have been married for over a year now and he's changed alot since we've gotten married. He used to try to please everyone, but inthe last few months him and his mom have fought alot because he puts me before her. She complained because he defends me when they get in an argument, and because he doesn't run our family decisions through her first. She had the nerve to tell me that I may be his wife, but i've only had him a few years and she's had himsince he was born, blah blah blah like that's suppose to mean something special to me. Alot of the problems I have with her have more to do with the fact that she's upset that for once in his life he's putting another women before her. She's one of those moms who thinks she has to take care of him 24/7, tuck him into bed, take care of him when he gets sick etc. etc. and he doesn't need her to take care of him anymore. Anyways, I've never understood her because I can't understand how another ethnic woman can dislike another ethic woman. She's the only one in her family who calls herself white, and she goes through this big hoo-rah when my husband and his father refer to themselves has hispanic. Her maiden name is Vallejo (Pronounced VA-LAY-HO) for crying out loud!!! She only seems to claim that she's hispanic when it benefits her. Anyways, the one big problem I'm having with her, is that she refers to black people as 'Colored' Not african american, not black, but 'colored' and that really offends me. I don't know if i'm over-rescting but to me she mine as well go ahead and just call us N***A because it's just as offensive as far as I'm concerned. Everytime she says it i feel my skin crawl, and i don't want my 11 month old daughter to pick up on her grandma's bad habits. I don't know how to explain to her to get her to understand how hurtful that word is to me and how I wish she wouldn't use it.
on Mar. 24, 2007 at 10:59 PM