Have children and then pawn them off on other people as soon as they can?
I have a friend that we bend over backwards for constantly. However she doesn't see it that way. There are tons of examples but I'll give you all the most recent from within this past year. My friend finally enrolled in school to pursue her passion in cooking however there was a bit of a problem with the hours of school and the part of a village she lives in (well we both reside in the same city). You see, her side of our city only has half day kindergarten while our part of the city had all day kindergarten. My mother (being the saint that she is) let my friend use her address to enroll her daughter in school in our district. OK, wonderful. Well here's the slap in the face, my friend only lives about 10 minutes from my mothers house. She would drop her daughter off on Sunday evening and call or show up sporadically throughout the week and not pick her up until LATE Friday evening. All the while my friend receives public assistance but never once offered my mother any food stamps or any other amenities while her daughter has been eating "our" food, using "our" water, soap, etc, etc,etc for the past 8 months. I'll give her a bit of credit because she would (occasionally) bring a box of cereal (but no milk) oatmeal, or snacks like cheez-its, fruit roll ups or animal crackers to the house, however her daughter (whom is 6) feels that she shouldn't share any of the items her mother bought over to the house. It quickly annoyed me when I moved back home in January when my husband deployed. I would see how she would stare at my oldest daughters snacks and my daughter would share them with her, but when she had something that my daughter would like, she wouldn't even offer her a crumb. So not only have I had to deal with her selfishness, I've had to seal with her smart ass mouth. She's one of those kids that is ALWAYS in adult conversations. Her mother or grandmother NEVER make her leave the room when "grown-ups" are talking. Therefore she knows the ENTIRE churches business and then some. I have a serious problem with that.
Well, my friend completed her externship about 2 weeks ago, her daughter is still coming to the house and staying almost EVERY (wit the exception of maybe Monday and Wednesday, but the rest of the week, she's there) night and not being picked up until LATE Friday evening. The other day my mother pulled her hoe card and told her, "OK, see you tomorrow" when my friend showed up one night. to comb her daughters hair and drop off her lunch. My friend said, "oh, I was going to let her stay here because I have to go to so and so's house". My mom said, "oh, well take her with you." I was shocked, because my mom has been letting her rake advantage of her for the longest and of course I can't say anything because this is NOT my house. I mean I make suggestions here and there but my mom always say, "its ok, only (x-amount ) of days left in the school year"!
Well, here it is finally the last week of school, June 8th to be exact and you would think that my friend would give my mom a break and let her child stay at home and just drop her off at school in the morning which is only 4 miles from her home. Well, today our other friend (whom has also noticed her trifling ways) is having a birthday party for her son ( I know I'm confusing the hell out of you all, but I'm almost done, I promise). So, trifling ass friend calls my mom with one of the CRAZIEST stories ever. She called my mom and asked her what time was she bringing my girls to the birthday party (I have to work today) and then goes on to ask my mom if her daughter could come home with her after the party is over and spend the night because her daughter misses watching "Dora the Explorer" with my 2 year old in the morning before going to school. WTF? 1. My two year old is asleep for the most part before the bus arrives, and 2. in the event my 2 year old is awake, she is in the room with my mom watching "Good Morning America", while I'm fixing breakfast. So again, why the big ass lie???? Well my mom went on to tell her, "you must be going out tonight", trifling ass friend replies, (giggle) yes, but she can stay home with my sister", however my mom being the softy that she is agreed to bring the smart mouthed child home with her anyway.
I've typed all that to type this. She tried so desperately to get pregnant by her good for nothing ass of an ex-boyfriend (whom is also a sporadic parent) to just toss her kid off on others when she gets a chance, and right now, my mom is her convenience. It annoys me to no end. Because, I sacrifice a whole hell of a lot . All though I have two children and my parents don't mind watching them if I make plans to go out, I usually either give my parents a few days in advanced notice letting them know my plans so I won't through a wrench in theirs or think, "do I really need to hit up that club tonight, thats $20 I can put in my gas tank this week?" Oh and also , she is unemployed (has been for the last 2 years), so how she is going out tonight baffles me. But anywho thats another post!
Some people can be so triflen' your mom is a saint beyond all saints and she should appreciate her services. I would give your mom a suggestion to act like she is busy one night and see what your friend does and says and if she gets disrespectful towards your mother that is when you can jump in and call her on her disrespect and unappreciative ways, ill bet you she will change her tune, and besides does she have family that she can annoy like this?
Quoting blackbeauty28:
Some people can be so triflen' your mom is a saint beyond all saints and she should appreciate her services. I would give your mom a suggestion to act like she is busy one night and see what your friend does and says and if she gets disrespectful towards your mother that is when you can jump in and call her on her disrespect and unappreciative ways, ill bet you she will change her tune, and besides does she have family that she can annoy like this?
Honestly, no one really wants to be bothered with her kid because of her smart-mouth and stank attitude. I was so upset last night because I later found out the reason she wanted her child to come over was because her boyfriend was in town and she needed some "sexual healing." I am totally thrown off by her. Literally, when I think of how long I supported her and helped her out and now how she took advantage of my mother just makes my head hurt.
My mother mentioned to her mother this morning how my friend "played" her into watching her daughter. Her mother then in turn apologized to my mother about her trifling daughter because she too has noticed her behavior towards her daughter since getting involved in a May/December relationship.
It's just a sin & ashame how trifling, low-down folk take advantage of those that are kind-hearted & loving 
folk that are doing right by them. Your friend's going to reap just want she sow & it just might be sooner than she thinks. As for her daughter, instead of your friend being out there in the clubs having herself a good time, she needs to be teaching her daughter some manners & home training before she ends up with a hot mess on her hands!
Quoting Magnolia96:
HOLLA!!
Wow first you are lucky to have such a mother with a big heart. I know your situation. A friend of mine was doing the same thing but to another friend. Just recently she lost her son (court ordered). Next time she asks your mom if there is a next time befor your mom says anything jump in girl and tell her hell to tha no. You got sime strong holdback in you for not saying anything. Bring that little girl to my house my man and I will fx that lil girl straight and her mamma
ABG Season 2- June 14th
- adoredby3
on May. 31, 2009 at 9:00 PM