Everett had nursed only at nap time and bed time until a month ago when we moved to a new apartment. Ever since then, he would sign for nursing completely randomly throughout the day especially when it's too cold or rainy to be outside. But even then, he would sometimes ask to nurse on the (new) playground or on the bus/train. I understand it is his way to "cope" with the change -- new place, new neighborhood and playground, new people, etc. The move has taken a toll on me as well. I have felt uprooted. We have made a lot of friends in our old neighborhood, including some Thai families, one was Everett's "best" friend. So i admit I have been somewhat depressed. The new neighborhood is relatively isolating and we do not have a car to get around easily. Also since it has started to get cold, we have often showed up to an empty playground and have not seen the same people twice. We have however just made new friends with mommies with kids same age on the same streets only recently. So it might get easier for us in that perspective.
Nevertheless this change of nursing pattern is draining me. I tried to deal with it as much as I could. I also know that, with unpacking and organizing, I have not been 100% for him and it perhaps is a rebel from him. But we are settled down now and so I am desperately seeking advice to wean him back to at least nap time and bed time again. I have tried to distract (with food, toy, reading) or reason with him as much as he could understand but he is very determined and I give in every single time. I tried standing my ground but we would have him flinging on the floor and banging his head, at home and in public.
What techniques should I try? I am on the verge of being done nursing at night also but am going to hold off until the holidays is over. In all, I am just done nursing emotionally. I do not want to ignore the issues and become bitter about this later. Any help is thus appreciated!
You're doing all the right things. Kepe doing them and add a HUGE does of patience. He's 100 % normal...and if you can relax you'll get a good dose of oxytocin with the nursing, which will help your mood.
He's just as stressed as you are. Probably MORE so. So for the moment, let it be. Trying to force him to stop is making both of oyu more stressed.
Think of it this way...what's the worst that can happen if you let him continue to nurse?
**smile**
How long?
- mcbaby08
on Nov. 23, 2009 at 2:28 PM