So DS is 12 months old now and DH has kept saying, "pretty soon, he will be weaned" and "I can't wait until he is weaned" and "we should really wean him now" over and over. I keep telling him no that our DS is NOT ready to wean yet. But today at the Thanksgiving dinner he recruited my dad and and stepmom and aunts and uncles in trying to get me to stop nursing!!!
They kept telling me- "oh you will still be connected." "He's old enough now to eat solids." "He doesn't need breastmilk anymore." "Just let him grow up."
Are you kidding? I told them that the APA recommends to continue as long as comfortable for mother and baby and WHO recommends 2 years. I told them that he stll needs it, and that he asks for it (which DH has seen him do) and that when we are ready we would stop. I don't know why DH won't just leave it alone! And recruiting my family in it? That's dirty pool!
UGH!!
Tell him if he ever wants to see your breasts again when your son isn't nursing, then he needs to keep his mouth shut. ;)
Does your son still wake at night? I'd let him know that before you'd even REMOTELY consider weaning, then he has to take care of all bedtime and nighttime wake ups. lol That might curb it pretty quickly.
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oh man... i don't even know how i'd react to that. doesn't he want what's best for your son? jeesh! i wonder what his reasoning is.. maybe he feels like he's not bonding w/ him as much as you are & he's a little jealous? just a thought ... i hope he backs off about it!
The replier below has got it just right. LOL! That is just rude and to recruit your family is even more rude! My DH is very supportive so I don't really know what I would do. Seriously though, I would probably do something like what she said below. My children are my priority; not the opinions of my family and husband!
Quoting lifetimelove:
Tell him if he ever wants to see your breasts again when your son isn't nursing, then he needs to keep his mouth shut. ;)
Does your son still wake at night? I'd let him know that before you'd even REMOTELY consider weaning, then he has to take care of all bedtime and nighttime wake ups. lol That might curb it pretty quickly.
Tell them unless it's their breasts or their bellies that are involved then to keep their noses out of it! DH and his family were the same way. I struggled to get my son to nurse up to a year, so I was thrilled when he continued nursing. When he weaned at 14 months, it was his decision and nobody else's! Keep doin' what you're doin' mama!
how irritating men dont get these thign were made for our abbies not them and they for some reason have a problem feeling like they r no longer theirs... sounds like the same problem.. im having men r idiots and older people came forma tiem formula feeding was the way to go NURSE THAT BABY :)
Quoting MumsTheWord571:So DS is 12 months old now and DH has kept saying, "pretty soon, he will be weaned" and "I can't wait until he is weaned" and "we should really wean him now" over and over. I keep telling him no that our DS is NOT ready to wean yet.
Stick to your guns. And remind him that Michael Jordan was breastfed to age three.
But today at the Thanksgiving dinner he recruited my dad and and stepmom and aunts and uncles in trying to get me to stop nursing!!!
They kept telling me- "oh you will still be connected." "He's old enough now to eat solids." "He doesn't need breastmilk anymore." "Just let him grow up."
Are you kidding? I told them that the APA recommends to continue as long as comfortable for mother and baby and WHO recommends 2 years. I told them that he stll needs it, and that he asks for it (which DH has seen him do) and that when we are ready we would stop. I don't know why DH won't just leave it alone! And recruiting my family in it? That's dirty pool!
Because your DH has that Y chromosome defect.
Print out the information on extended breastfeeding from kellymom...especially the info about reducing breast cancer risk.
Tell himn the subject is NO LONGER up for discussion...or you will decide that there will be no more sex ever unless you're trying for a baby. Aftetr all, you don't need it unless trying to reproduce.
Hubby makes similar comments to me about our nearly 11 month old daughter. Just try to put yourself in his position. He is a man. He doens't understand your breastfeeding relationship because he is a man. He NEEDS to be supportive though, and trust you as his wife and the mother of his child and as a WOMAN to make these decisions. Things like thise belong in the hands of the mother. You are the one breastfeeding your baby, and I don't know of any baby that is ready to just jump up and wean because he is a year old. I *think* most babies self wean around 2.
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on Nov. 27, 2009 at 1:47 AM