I just need some encouraging words tonight... I have been BF my twins who are nearing 8 months old and it's getting stressful. I don't want to wean them, I don't want to give them formula so I know I won't quit, just having a hard time right now. They won't eat tandem and feeding one at a time is such a struggle. They are at that really clingy stage so the one not eating cries and cries. The only thing I can do is put Sesame Street on to catch their attention- they don't sit and watch, but will play and occasionally watch. I HATE that they are "watching" tv but I don't know what else to do. Sometimes I just want to give them a bottle so they can both eat at the same time and not be so upset. It breaks my heart :(
UGG! Thanks to anyone who actually read my vent.
It s hard for us as mothers to hear our children cry but they aren't hurt or starving or anything horrible. You are a wonderful mom for worrying and caring you wouldn't believe how many parents don't care. You can do this! I would also take some me time if you can to destress and give you a renewed sense of well being. Good luck!
I dont really know anything about breastfeeding yet, but im going to put the first thing that popped in my head :)
What if you started pumping bottles for them? that way you could feed both at the same time. That way the would be on the bottles but it wouldnt be formula either? I know people say that pumping is hard work and takes a while but the way it sounds you could use a break and are busy enough anyways :)
I know somedays it can be hard. Twins I cant imagine. Keep it up. Sometimes I give my daughter water when I want to hold her off a bit. Not sure if they are old enough for that yet. Don't worry about the TV. Before they had TV moms had other moms that helped out. We don't have that the way they used to. TVs help here and there as long as you know you only use it when you need to don't worry.
I've considered this but I don't think I'd be able to keep up pumping for two. I was thinking about giving one a pumped bottle while nursing the other and alternating but again, not sure I can keep up with the pumping. It's just a hassle! Thanks for the suggestion though
Quoting MamaHardy2008:I dont really know anything about breastfeeding yet, but im going to put the first thing that popped in my head :)
What if you started pumping bottles for them? that way you could feed both at the same time. That way the would be on the bottles but it wouldnt be formula either? I know people say that pumping is hard work and takes a while but the way it sounds you could use a break and are busy enough anyways :)
Would one sit still next to you while the other nursed and you read a story?? When my youngest was born, my oldest would get jealous when I nursed and would have fits and what not.. I started reading her stories with her sitting right next to us, while nursing. She stopped with the fits and it became a great bonding experience for all of us!! Good Luck. You can do it!! =)
I wish they would sit for that! I've tried letting them play and sitting near them while I feed. I've tried putting them in the saucer/jumper while I feed. I've tried leaving the room so I'm not in sight. None of this works. To add to it- they are at that age, 7 1/2 months, where they are SO distracted that I need to be somewhere quiet and dimly lit. I really appreciate the suggestion though!
Quoting LovinMy2Girlz:Would one sit still next to you while the other nursed and you read a story?? When my youngest was born, my oldest would get jealous when I nursed and would have fits and what not.. I started reading her stories with her sitting right next to us, while nursing. She stopped with the fits and it became a great bonding experience for all of us!! Good Luck. You can do it!! =)
What kind of problem are you having with tandem? What positions have you tried?
I tried several positions I found on-line, don't remember all the names, but everything I tried hurt because I wasn't comfortable or they were pulling way too much on my nipple. Plus, they won't keep their hands off each other and my one twins HATES when his brother touches his head! Then he cries and then the other cries. I never got good support in the hospital on tandem feeding so never got the hang of it on my own. Maybe I will give it a shot again.
Quoting Daynaof3:What kind of problem are you having with tandem? What positions have you tried?
You can try sitting indian style on a couch or floor(though on a couch you wouldn't really need to sit that way you could sit regularly lol) and have the lay facing away from each other with their head on your legs and bodies pointing outward away from you. They won't be able to touch each other, put some pillows or a folded up blanket next to each leg to keep them up high enough and use a nursing pillow or regular pillow on your lap to get them up to breast level. It will look like a circus but it will most likely work well.
Quoting mimi0884:
I tried several positions I found on-line, don't remember all the names, but everything I tried hurt because I wasn't comfortable or they were pulling way too much on my nipple. Plus, they won't keep their hands off each other and my one twins HATES when his brother touches his head! Then he cries and then the other cries. I never got good support in the hospital on tandem feeding so never got the hang of it on my own. Maybe I will give it a shot again.
Quoting Daynaof3:
What kind of problem are you having with tandem? What positions have you tried?
Thanks! I will give it a try! I was thinking of camping out in bed and giving it a serious try today. That way it will be free of distractions, I can keep it on the darker side...
Quoting Daynaof3:You can try sitting indian style on a couch or floor(though on a couch you wouldn't really need to sit that way you could sit regularly lol) and have the lay facing away from each other with their head on your legs and bodies pointing outward away from you. They won't be able to touch each other, put some pillows or a folded up blanket next to each leg to keep them up high enough and use a nursing pillow or regular pillow on your lap to get them up to breast level. It will look like a circus but it will most likely work well.
Quoting mimi0884:
I tried several positions I found on-line, don't remember all the names, but everything I tried hurt because I wasn't comfortable or they were pulling way too much on my nipple. Plus, they won't keep their hands off each other and my one twins HATES when his brother touches his head! Then he cries and then the other cries. I never got good support in the hospital on tandem feeding so never got the hang of it on my own. Maybe I will give it a shot again.
Quoting Daynaof3:
What kind of problem are you having with tandem? What positions have you tried?
In ER with baby
- mimi0884
on Mar. 18, 2010 at 10:47 PM