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Feeling so overwhelmed

Posted by on May. 26, 2010 at 1:46 PM
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I am breastfeeding my third baby something I havent been able to do for very long with any of my babies, I have a nerve issue that causes whatever side i nurse baby on to have a sensation like when your foot is asleep and starting to wake up. It goes down my arm and leg on whatever side baby nurses on. Its constant. With my first it was too much to deal with and have Postpartum depression. With my second I didnt want to overwhelm myself since they were so close together, so I only nursed him for a week. This time I felt I was doing pretty good, I have been nursing my baby for a month. However i am feeling overwhelmed, not necessarilly with the breastfeeding, I just need some support, i really want to continue is this something I should talk to my dr about?? Im wondering if Im experiecing post partum depression agian, its a bit different than with my first. With my first it was immediate as soon as he came out i wanted nothing to do with anyone and it lasted for 7 months I didnt tell anyone about how i was feeling out of ashame because i didnt want to be a faild momma. I just dont know what to think or do. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. 

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tabi_cat1023
by Group Admin -Tabitha on May. 26, 2010 at 2:07 PM

Could be post partum kinda but what I hear is something called D-mer.  Please read this page

http://www.d-mer.org/

does this sounds like you?

The negative emotions, or dysphoria, that a mother with D-MER experiences often manifest "in the mother's stomach" - a hollow feeling, a feeling like there is something in the pit of the stomach, or an emotional churning in the stomach. Mothers report varying types of emotions with D-MER ranging from dread to anxiety to anger, these emotions fall on the D-MER spectrum which has three different levels. The common thread between these levels, is the wave of negative emotions or dysphoria, prior to letdown, when nursing, expressing and with spontaneous letdowns, that then lifts within another 30-90 seconds, and then usually repeats with each letdown.

A key piece of D-MER is that a mother with D-MER feels absolutely fine except just before her milk starts to flow. D-MER is a brief feeling, not more than 30 seconds to 2 minutes, only and always beginning before let-down. This is not postpartum depression and most of these mothers feel perfectly fine except for that pre-milk moment. A brief interval after the negative feelings appear, the milk begins to flow.


D-MER can easily go unrecognized since 1) some mothers have so many closely spaced letdowns per feeding that the feelings do not have a chance to dissipate before the next D-MER is upon her, making her feel that she experiences on long D-MER through most of, if not all of, the feeding 2) many mothers do not physically feel a letdown in their breasts and so does not connect the feeling as to being just prior to letdown and 3) given the fact that D-MER happens with spontaneous letdowns as well, a mother may not immediately connect the way she is feeling to being a breastfeeding phenomenon.

gdiamante
by Gina on May. 26, 2010 at 2:08 PM


Quoting keun28:

I am breastfeeding my third baby something I havent been able to do for very long with any of my babies, I have a nerve issue that causes whatever side i nurse baby on to have a sensation like when your foot is asleep and starting to wake up. It goes down my arm and leg on whatever side baby nurses on. Its constant.

This only happenms when nursing, not during any other activities?

With my first it was too much to deal with and have Postpartum depression. With my second I didnt want to overwhelm myself since they were so close together, so I only nursed him for a week. This time I felt I was doing pretty good, I have been nursing my baby for a month. However i am feeling overwhelmed, not necessarilly with the breastfeeding, I just need some support, i really want to continue is this something I should talk to my dr about??

Of course you should.

Im wondering if Im experiecing post partum depression agian, its a bit different than with my first. With my first it was immediate as soon as he came out i wanted nothing to do with anyone and it lasted for 7 months I didnt tell anyone about how i was feeling out of ashame because i didnt want to be a faild momma. I just dont know what to think or do. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. 

Go see your doc for treatment. Don't go this alone.

tabi_cat1023
by Group Admin -Tabitha on May. 26, 2010 at 2:09 PM

Make sure you talk to both a doctor and LC about this...I think you are awesome for trying over and over

keun28
by on May. 26, 2010 at 2:16 PM


Quoting gdiamante:

It only happens while the baby nurses the entire time I nurse on whatever side. After baby unlaches then the sensation goes away.  I will talk to my dr thanks

Quoting keun28:

I am breastfeeding my third baby something I havent been able to do for very long with any of my babies, I have a nerve issue that causes whatever side i nurse baby on to have a sensation like when your foot is asleep and starting to wake up. It goes down my arm and leg on whatever side baby nurses on. Its constant.

This only happenms when nursing, not during any other activities?

With my first it was too much to deal with and have Postpartum depression. With my second I didnt want to overwhelm myself since they were so close together, so I only nursed him for a week. This time I felt I was doing pretty good, I have been nursing my baby for a month. However i am feeling overwhelmed, not necessarilly with the breastfeeding, I just need some support, i really want to continue is this something I should talk to my dr about??

Of course you should.

Im wondering if Im experiecing post partum depression agian, its a bit different than with my first. With my first it was immediate as soon as he came out i wanted nothing to do with anyone and it lasted for 7 months I didnt tell anyone about how i was feeling out of ashame because i didnt want to be a faild momma. I just dont know what to think or do. Any advise would be greatly appreciated. 

Go see your doc for treatment. Don't go this alone.


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