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baby is 1 week 5 days and REFUSES to latch to me

Posted by on May. 26, 2010 at 6:17 PM
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She was born on the 14th this month and she fed GREAT from ME for the first 9 hours...then she just stopped...she gets extremly PEEVED when I try to get her to latch pushing away and turning her head. i pump for her feedings to keep my supply up i have enough where i can feed her before i pump at each feeding i try to get her to latch with no luck. I have seen 8 lactation specialist and they r all stumpt saying they hope its not an attitude thing cuz they feel sorry for me if it is...I will pump my milk as long as she is on milk no bigs but man it would make life MUCH easier if i could get her to latch. She was never given a bottle when she stopped latching on and now she uses the breastflow bottles cuz they r the only ones I can kinda get her to eat from. the lactation ladys said she is a lazy eater. bottles even annoy her....any ideas? any one else have this problem? any tips!!!!! anything would be welcome! I am at a loss here! I am on my third daughter and my other two were preemie and did GREAT with breast feeding both of them actually refused anything but me! so this is my third time around and i just dont understand!

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by on May. 26, 2010 at 6:17 PM
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anjalee033
by on May. 26, 2010 at 6:19 PM

the doc and lactation ladys said they dont see any reason y she couldnt her mouth and tonge r perfect and I am perfect

gdiamante
by Gina on May. 26, 2010 at 6:25 PM

Do you have a fast letdown? That was why my son refused for two weeks. A change in position made a huge difference.

Check out the fast letdown article on kellymom.com.


anjalee033
by on May. 26, 2010 at 6:25 PM

BUMP!

gdiamante
by Gina on May. 26, 2010 at 6:44 PM

Anjalee, get a supplemental nursing system. No more bottles. And remembver to look for BABY's cues to feed; they do get irritated when tyou try to feed when they don't want it.

Wife2003
by on May. 26, 2010 at 9:22 PM
Idk know what to say other than the sane thing happened with my DD she nursed perfectly in the hospital for the first hours and then stopped all interest with it. We saw 4 LC and the same, they had NO clue. I gave up on it though, I got severely deppressed, couldn't even think about BF, couldn't pump anymore or ANYTHING to do with BF set me off. She ended up on formula. To this day I wish I would have tried harder because there ALWAYS is a way!! I agree with a PP, try the SNS and don't give up!!! Your awesome already to be pumping!!!! GL :)
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Daynaof3
by on May. 26, 2010 at 9:49 PM

 Did they suction her at birth? Sometimes babies can develop oral aversions from that. Did any of the LC's try to "force" baby onto the breast, that can also do it. Any pacifiers use in the hospital(if you went to a hospital)? If you were in a hospital did they ever take her without you with her(for testing, etc.), they may have given her a bottle or a pacifier without you knowing it. So they checked for tongue-tie, high palate, "lip" ties and found nothing. How was your labor and delivery, any complications? Are you on any meds?

JennaFoix
by on May. 27, 2010 at 12:56 AM

awwwww :( so sorry to hear this :( all I can say is dont give up!! and keep trying, maybe one day it will pay off. My son latched for the FIRST TIME the night day he turned a week old. I did the same as you and pumped and tried to get him to latch every so often, and that day outta the blue he just did it. It was great!!! Good luck to you!!

JennaFoix
by on May. 27, 2010 at 12:58 AM

whats supplemental nursing system??

Quoting gdiamante:

Anjalee, get a supplemental nursing system. No more bottles. And remembver to look for BABY's cues to feed; they do get irritated when tyou try to feed when they don't want it.


nicole4ray
by on May. 27, 2010 at 1:04 AM

Have you tried a nipple shield? That was how I finally got my first dd to latch on when she was 6 days old. I used the nipple shield until she had nursing down, then I weaned her from it and she continued to nurse off of me. You can buy them at Target or Babies R Us. It saved nursing for me, and also my sister used one when her baby quit latching.

hmommy07
by on May. 27, 2010 at 1:08 AM

also gas can cause it.  it took me a month to get my daughter to nurse. i was really determined and it was the hardest thing but she was colicky and had a temper/defiant (as we are well aware of now) but if i pushed her too far (trying to get her to latch when "she" didn't want to... oh forget it, that was the end of eating for at least 3 feedings.  a lot of it was gas though, i think she knew somehow that nursing would lead to gas...or she was having it while trying to nurse... oh man it was a pita lol!!! good luck but keep at it, let me tall ya, if i got my baby to nurse (and all the lac consultants and her pedi were amazed)  then you can do it for sure!!!!! (reason i say that is because aside from all the things i listed above, i had to leave my baby the day we came back from the hospital because i had to go to the er. i dind't get to nurse her at all until day 5 and milk didnt' come in till day 7 or 8.)  you'll get it, just keep at it! GL

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