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completely upset piog

Posted by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:15 AM
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this is ot, but this baby will be bf'd =)

Im pregnant with number #3, i have abs (amniotic band syndrome) and a circumvallate baby will be born early most likely( due to preterm labor or them taking him because the placenta stops working. )

they are telling me the least of my problems would be my son having "special" hands and feet, he could be missing his fingers missing toes he could be missing his whole hand and his whole foot...he could have cleft lip,pallate, he could have a ligament amputated by the band and worse case scenario fetal death from the band.

im so scared he wont make it, and im nervous about what "speciality" he will have, kids are soo flipping mean and i know he will get teased. im just upset my poor boo, both of my other pregnancies were fine(my first i had hyperemisis) but nothing that could harm the babies.

im so stressed out i want him to be ok, and i just want a healthy happy baby.

i dont know know why i am posting this, i just had to get it off my chest...everyone tells me i am handling all the stress so well, yeah its probably because i cry after you leave! ugh i just want to be able to take a full breath and just relax.

Sara..Breastfeeding...Pro Vaccinating...Time Out Giving...No Cio...Disposible Diapering...Anti-Abortion...Hug And Kisses Loving Mother of 2 Beautiful Boys or 3 I'f You Count DH. =]









by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:15 AM
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by Group Admin - Stacy on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:31 AM
You're operating with a lot of "what if's" there. No matter what you prepare yourself for, bad or good,it might not even be close to what you expect. I'm sorry you can't just enjoy your pregnancy. I can understand your worry, though. The only thing you can do is see the right specialists and have some support in place for the possibility of a special needs child. We can worry and worry and worry about one of our kids who has problems, and then come to find out that one of your other kids has a potentially serious problem.

I have a friend who got pregnant when she was 43 and had every test they offered, and had decided if her amnio came back bad, she would terminate the pregnancy because she couldn't take cake of an older child and then have a special needs baby. Everything came back great, but here he is almost 4 and he doesn't speak and at the very least is cognitively impaired. She loves him more than life, and she is completely riddled with guilt knowing he might not be here if her tests indicated then what she knows now, because she does want him, no matter how he comes. My littlest dd has a hemangioma, a "strawberry" on her face and sometimes I would feel very defensive when people stared at her. Kids are pretty great though, because they just want you to explain what it is and that it doesn't hurt them, and then they deal with it. (some kids and plenty adults in this world can be ignorant and cruel to all. Luckily they are outnumbered by the compassionate.) I will think of and pray for your son. Have you chosen his name? And I will pray that you are able to deal with everything with strength and grace. I'm sure you will.
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by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:33 AM
I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult it is not knowing how your baby is doing. I know of someone on here from my old DDG who had ABS her son was born missing only part of one of his limbs, and otherwise is completely healthy. I have a son with special needs as well, and if it is of any reassurance to you kids have been very kind to him, teasing was one of my biggest worries too. I hope everything turns out okay.
by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:06 AM

I have a daughter with a lot of medical issues and special needs due to a metabolic disorder.  She has very "distracting" behaviors, and although she's beautiful, she doesn't really look "normal".  We get the comment a lot that she looks like a little porcelain doll.  She gets a lot of "looks".  Kids ask a lot of questions because of her feeding tube.  But no one has ever made fun of her.  In fact, children are often drawn to her.  I use their questions to explain what's going on.  I believe children tend to be mean due to fear.  So I make sure that they understand there is nothing to be afraid of.  =)  And let me tell you, once you hold and see your child, what anyone else thinks is the last of your concerns.  =)

I wish you well with the rest of your pregnancy and your daughter will be in my prayers.

by on Apr. 13, 2011 at 11:02 PM




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