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Judge doesn't allow breastfeeding in courtroom? This Michigan judge broke the law.

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Judge tells mom: Don’t breastfeed in courtroom
CAROLYN ROBERTSON
MOMS ON THE EDGE
posted: 11/10/2011, 9:01 am

“I felt like I was being attacked for breastfeeding.”

So says Michigan mom Natalie Hegedus, who claims that she was left “humiliated” this week when a district court judge openly admonished her for breastfeeding her 5-month-old baby in the courthouse.

Natalie hadn’t planned on bringing her son Landon with her when she went to court this past Tuesday, but had to pull him out of daycare after he came down with an ear infection. So when he became hungry after a 2-hour wait, she did what most moms would do – she fed him.

Making sure that “nothing was showing,” Natalie says that she discretely nursed Landon as she continued to wait in the courtroom. When her name was finally called, she asked the Honorable Robert T. Hentchel for a moment as she collected herself and her son. According to Natalie, the judge then asked her if she thought the courtroom was an appropriate place to breastfeed her baby.

Showing considerable calm, Natalie says that she pointed out that her son was hungry and that nursing in public is not against the law so she didn’t feel it was inappopriate to feed him there. She claims that the judge disagreed, citing, “My court, my law and I feel it is.” Apparently it was then that the mortified mom noticed a note that a court employee had passed to the bench that warned, “There is a woman breastfeeding in court.”

“Needless to say I left in tears, I have never felt so humiliated,” Natalie wrote as she later related the experience in a post in the BabyCenter Community. She was so outraged that she’s contacted lawyers and plans on filing a formal complaint.

As disappointing as Natalie’s story is, what makes it all the more frustrating is the fact that it’s not exactly a one-off incident. She is just one of many moms who have felt judged and criticized for simply feeding their children. Despite the fact that just about everybody encourages moms to breastfeed these days, we still hear stories of women being kicked off of busesremoved from airplanes and asked to leave restaurants for daring to nurse their babies in public.

Is it any wonder that new moms like BabyCenter blogger Sabrina Garibian might have a few jitters at the prospect of breastfeeding in public?

If we really want to encourage nursing, then it can’t be shrouded in mystery and shielded from sight, something that good moms do while huddled behind closed nursery doors. Natalie’s story just goes to show that despite all of our best intentions, society’s collective hang-up over breastfeeding still exists.

by on Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:10 PM
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Sweet_Carol_126
by on Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:27 PM

I think that w, as the question and he answer as well.  While it is embarrassing to some, it is something we need to get over as it is perfectly natural to breastfeed babies and it should not be against the law anywhere.  a diaper or cloth or scarf discretely placeshould make it easier for those who might be embarrassed.  Many also think it is a beautiful thing to see a child eating.  This is why women's bodies are made as they are.  Hopefully the charges that were placed will have an effect on the chauvenists.

 

areid1023
by Member on Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:30 PM

yikes! what a moron!

L1558
by on Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:38 PM

Freaking pig judge.

She was doing what any normal mother would do. The judge STILL doesn't control the law; he only weighs information and delivers consequences. He is not above the law. I hope he gets what he has coming to him.

Made her cry?!? I wouldn't be crying...I'd be furious.

Susan0805
by Bronze Member on Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:41 PM
Wow, what a rude judge! I would file a complaint too.
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Khuerta
by on Nov. 11, 2011 at 6:59 PM
as pitiful as it is, NOBODY is going to charge or follow up with a complaint against a judge. any lawyer that tries is never going to be able to practice again. Breastfeeding is not taken as seriously as a judge asking for sexual favors to sway his decision. its infuriating, but nothing will happen to him.
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gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Nov. 11, 2011 at 7:14 PM

A judge who breaks the law can get in worse trouble than anyone else, actually. Losing their bench, being disbarred... those are potential consequences.

"Who shall guard those selfsame guardians?" We the people, that's who.

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Nov. 11, 2011 at 7:15 PM


Quoting Khuerta:

as pitiful as it is, NOBODY is going to charge or follow up with a complaint against a judge. any lawyer that tries is never going to be able to practice again. Breastfeeding is not taken as seriously as a judge asking for sexual favors to sway his decision. its infuriating, but nothing will happen to him.

That might be true in Texas, but it's not here in CA! We've had a few judges drummed off the bench for misuse of their office.


Khuerta
by on Nov. 11, 2011 at 7:19 PM
Itd be nice to see our rights defended for a change but, Ill reserve "hope" for "justice" until i start seeing signs of change in society.
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dairymama
by on Nov. 11, 2011 at 7:21 PM
You can't get out of it? My husband got a summons a couple months ago and on the back of his it said if you are the primary care taker of a child(ren) under 5 and/or breastfeeding you don't have to go. Maybe that's just where I live?


Quoting collinsmommy0:

Wow. I have jury duty next week - I wonder what they will think of me & my pump & my request to pump for 20 min every 2-3 hours in a place other than a bathroom!

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sara_3388
by Member on Nov. 11, 2011 at 7:23 PM
Thats not far from me. Makes me so mad to think that she was treated that way.
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