I have twin boys that are 1 month old, and I am attempting to breastfeed them. They happen to be preemies, and still at 1 month tend to fall asleep half way through feedings, and Thanksgiving just hit and the boys were held nonstop by relatives. I'd say 'It's time for their nap', put them down, then go into another room. When I'd return, they'd be out of the crib and back in relatives arms. The day after, they slept from 9am to 3pm without eating. I couldn't wake them enough to feed them!
Because of the time of year, I've been forced to go in to work many days, leaving them with relatives. Since none of the family really understood that the boys actually need time out of people's arms, when I get them home in the evening, they are spoiled and expect to be held for the rest of the night. If I put them down, they scream. I tried letting them cry it out, and it just means I have a screaming baby for hours on end. They are also cranky all day long.
Saying all that, it is, of course, having ramifications on breastfeeding. Because twins need to be on a schedule to keep everyone sane, and to keep lactation going well, I've really worked at getting them to a rough 3 hour feeding schedule, but the time of year couldn't have been worse. Lactation is shaky, never knowing when I have good supply and when I don't. The boys sometimes eat what I think was a full meal, then 30 minutes later are hungry again. Never at the same time, of course, so I could feed both and keep them to the same schedule. It's always so that they are staggered for the rest of the day, so I am feeding ALL DAY LONG.Then suddenly they'll decide that they need to sleep so soundly that we are unable to wake them. We try everything, including changing them or wiping them with a wet washcloth. They scream and are cranky, then as soon as I try to feed them they go back to sleep.
Feeding is all over the place, I don't know what to expect and the boys don't know what to expect. Because it's constantly changing, I keep having to change the rules. One moment I'll say they need to stick to their naps, the next moment I'm telling everyone to keep them awake. My relatives are getting frustrated because they don't know what I want them to do. My husband has to look to me before he does anything, and I'm to the 'throwing up my hands' point.