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He called and said he wants to see our son..But I don't I want him to OT EDIT: NEW UPDATE

Posted by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:30 PM
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Last year I came home from work to find my apartment near empty..I thought I had been robbed..I went next door to call the police to report the break in..I knock on my neighbors door..My neighbor comes to the door and said hey..Did you come to say good bye..I said Huh? No, I come to ask if I could use your phone to call the cops to report my apartment has been broken into.The look on her face I will never forget..She said NO, Hun your house has not been robbed..I seen your husband with another man she did not know moving stuff into a truck..I almost hit the floor..I went back to my apartment and searched for a note to find something that would tell me what was going on and there was none..My cell phone was dead so I charged it..What seem like forever to call him and ask what is going on..He never answered or even called me..A few days later I find out he changed his number and his family would not give it to me without asking him first..I couldn't understand what happen why he did this I even found out he cleaned out our savings account and didn't even leave me a dime and most of what was in the savings was my inheritance from my father he had past away about 4 months before this happen..He even took items that was given to me by my mom that was my fathers that I can never get back..It hurt so bad I wanted to die..A few days later I was told he was with his coke head slut ex girlfriend..Then I found out not only has he left me for his ex and cleaned our apartment and took all my money and keepsakes from my father..I was pregnant..I knew I could not keep the apartment and live out of state from my family so I did what I had to do  I broke my lease and moved in with my mom..Now my son is 3 months old and his father has called and said he wants to see our son.. I TOLD HIM TO GO TO HELL!!..I asked him where was my money and the stuff that was my fathers.and he will not tell me..I told him he needed to give it back or some of it I needed it for our son..He would not answer me..He hung up the phone..I think he ran out of money..I really think it's gone.I just don't trust him to see my son..I just want him to never call me again and stay out of our life..Am I wrong for feeling this way? I'm sorry this is so long..



EDIT: I talked to my SIL and she said..He is out of money and back living with his parents..That his coke head girlfriend and him spent all the money and when the money was gone so was she.. LOL

And My mom told me shes going to call our family lawyer in the morning and get the ball rolling on for me to file my divorce and custody of my son..She going to pay all my attorney fees..And it should go in my favor because I EBF and hes only 3 months old.So, I'm hoping he don't get weekend visits..Hes money hungry I bet hes doing this to see if we will give him money to go away..




by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:30 PM
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MommyJill87
by Jill on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:33 PM
Oh wow! I am so sorry! No you are not wrong! I would not let him see the baby.
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mygardenia
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:34 PM

Dont let him see your son and take him to court to get your money back.

ceckyl
by Kyla on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:34 PM
I would do the same.
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swmmra
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:37 PM

You are so right in feeling this way. Know that he has a legal right to see his son, if paternity is proven. However, if he isn't clean or living with people that aren't clean you can legally fight him. If you are breast feeding then that gives you another bonus on your side. You can request, if he gets visitation, that your child not be gone longer then is needed so that you can feed him. Be prepared that this may go to court and at that point you may need to fight him. Be strong and hold on for your child. Let your mom know what is going on so that she can support you in what might be coming. 

Good luck!

MaryJarrett
by Mary on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:40 PM
I'm so sorry!! You are in the right here!! Praying for you!
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collinsmommy0
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:46 PM
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Wow.

I would call a lawyer now & get paperwork set up with you having full custody. As long as his name isn't on the birth certificate, you should be able to get it. Call social services if you can't afford one & they can probably refer you to a lawyer who will do it for a portion of the regular price.
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Sama2Mamma
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 5:54 PM
Wow that's horrible! What a dick! Don't let him near your son.
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mommy2hunter12
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 6:10 PM

My mom told me she will pay for my lawyer..Thank God..I don't know what I would do without her

Quoting collinsmommy0:

Wow.

I would call a lawyer now & get paperwork set up with you having full custody. As long as his name isn't on the birth certificate, you should be able to get it. Call social services if you can't afford one & they can probably refer you to a lawyer who will do it for a portion of the regular price.


sreichelt26
by Gold Member on Apr. 11, 2012 at 6:12 PM


Quoting mygardenia:

Dont let him see your son and take him to court to get your money back.


comf
by on Apr. 11, 2012 at 6:22 PM
Are you still married?
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