Thanks for the help....vent

[alaskadreams]

For the most part I love my MIL.  We went to visit her this past weekend and she offered to watch Trace while DH and I went to dinner.  Because we drove to visit her I didn't bring any pumped milk,but I did bring a 9 oz premade formula can because I supplement 2 oz after feedings at night.  So before we left I put out a 4 oz bottle next to the premade stuff and told her  that when Trace woke up to give him 2-3oz and then i'd nurse when we got back.  We got back from dinner about 2.5 later (half an hour later than I thought we would) but still Trace would have been up for only about 45 mins or so.  Trace was up and his little tummy was HUGE!  MIL w/a smile- He's a big eater!  I filled the bottle all the way up and fed him (abt 5 oz) and he was still fussy so I gave him the rest of the formula although he seemed to get full towards the end and slowed down but he ate it all- and he seems fine!  Two minutes later he threw up like something from the Exorcist....Thanks for the Help MIL- next time I'll pass.  I was soo angry!  My DH says that I'm over reacting but I cannot believe that she would think a 5 month old needs 9 oz at a feeding!  Geesh!

[alaskadreams]

Not to mention-then he wasn't hungry and I woke up in the middle of the night totally engorged!

[liltrippymom]

Poor little guy. I agree she sbouldnt have given him more than u said to give him. But i wouldnt be to mad at her shewas probably excited about feeding her grand baby. Just educate her a litle more explain how even though he acts hungry its because of gas and such. Gl mama

[ButterMeUp]

Think about how many years it's been since she has had a child. She honestly doesn't seem to have meant to harm him. I would take a step back and just better explain the directions a little better next time. 

[Gruntlings]

Ouch. He should only have about 3oz per 3 hours of separation. If you were only gone for 2.5 hours he could have probably gone without eating or gotten an ounce or so to tide him over.

[mitty18]

I highly doubt that she meant any harm.
You didn't explain the way a breastfed baby eats, therefore she probably didn't understand.
Babies were fed differently back then.
Explain better next time, but don't hold it against her.

[alaskadreams]

I know it's been a long time since she's had a baby of her own and that she was excited to feed Trace.  I guess I just figured since she basically raised her other two grandsons that are in the area she would have known better.  She just has a way of pushing boundaries on other issues that rubs me the wrong way so I know that I'm super sensitive to things she does

[collinsmommy0]

I'd be mad. If she can't follow your directions, then she can't watch baby.

[mollysmom328]

Exactly, specific directions were given.  I'd be furious.  Poor little guy :(

Quoting collinsmommy0:

I'd be mad. If she can't follow your directions, then she can't watch baby.

[annaica]

Ask your hubby f it were a baby-sitter if he'd have the same feelings? I mean just because it is a relative doesn't erase the mistake. I would tell her you expect that she will respect your wishes if she wants to watch him.