Am I the crazy one for not wanting to leave my LO?

[Jmommy823]

I don't understand this. My dh keeps trying to get me to go on vacatiOn WITHOUT our LO because it would be cheaper, easier and he thinks we would have more fun not having to carry him all over he place. Honestly I think he just wants time for the two of us...which I understand. HOWEVER, I am NOT leaving my baby!!! He is ten months old now and nursing is going great. Now he is talking about vacation after he turns one so it's not like he's asking me to leave tomorrow but still! I love my son and I don't want to leave him, even for one night. Honestly part of it does have to do with nursing him. I work full time and I HATE pumping. So why would I leave him for a night and then have to pump when I don't have to.
So fast forward until tonight. My friend just told me that she is going on vacation with her dh in August when her dd will be 18months and she will be leaving her with family. I don't know how long they are going for but either way I could not see leaving my ds to go on vacation without him. Maybe it's because I am a first time mom, maybe it's because I nurse, or maybe I am just crazy. But I don't feel like I would be able to leave me lil guy to go on a vacation without him.

[Young_Mommy89]

Well ds is only 11 days old but Idk how I will feel when he gets older, but the thought of him getting older makes me cry. DD, I have left with my parents while I went to visit SO's family

[CLEKate]

You are going to find a lot of ladies that agree with you.

 

 

 

I however, don't.  I firmly believe that parents need to take time away from their child---and not just for dinner & a movie.  Overnighters are a great way to reconnect with a SO.  Often after having a child the relationship changes and going away is a great way to bring attention back on that relationship.

 

 

My husband and I have gone away a couple times a year since my older son was 6 months old.  It has done wonders to our relationship.

[ListaPaMas]

I want to go to six flags for tge day without the kids my mom will gladly watch them and my husband wont leave them :/ i just want a day ugh one is 10 mths and the other is 4 yrs we do everytging with and for them a mini vacation is okay in my opion especially if theyre with someone you trust

[motoxmommaof3]

We don't leave our kids either. We have an 11 yo, 8 yo, and an 8 month old. They have left me to go on trips with there grandma but I have only left the older ones twice. Once when they were 5 and 2 and my grandma was very sick I left them with there dad and my mom while he was working. Also we left them for 2 nights for our anniversary when they were 7 and 4. But that's it everything we do is kid friendly so why not have then there? There will be plenty of time to do things when they are grown.

[JoyfulMommy1221]

When my dd was 18 mos we left her with my parents (3hrs away from where we were) so we could honeymoon. She was done nursing at that point. I also left her before she self weaned at my sil's overnight because she was done nursing at night. Dd is our first child. We now have a 7 week old son (our honeymoon baby lol. Born 9 mos after the wedding to the date! Lol)

Anyway, no you aren't crazy. When dd was 10 mos I couldn't even imagine leaving her overnight let alone for a few days! Maybe make a deal with your dh that you will go on vacation with him just the two of you when your baby is a little older and weaned. And, btw, I think vacations are more fun with the whole family! =)

[littlelambe2]

You're not crazy :)

Before I got pregnant with my first, it was dh who told me that we would be taking our kids everywhere with us (except for the odd date night once baby was old enough, and the odd sleepover at the grandparents when the kids were old enough) I thought he was nuts! But since having our first 2 years ago, I couldn't agree more :) I think the crazies are those who want to dump their kids every oportunity that comes along. Please don't misunderstand. Once the kids are old enough to enjoy spending an afternoon with family or friends, that's fine. But leaving them home while you go on vacation? Weird.

We've taken many trips with dd and it's always been a blast.

[littlelambe2]

I should add..... Now that dd can talk and communicate her needs better, I feel much better about leaving her with g'ma or her cousins for a couple hours. And it's cute because she asks to stay, and I know she has a fun time. I don't have to worry about them missing signs that she's hungry or has to go potty. Because she'll let them know with words they can understand! A lot of the communication that goes on between a child and his/her parents is non verbal and unless another caregiver spends a lot of time with the child, it is very easy to not be able to understand what they baby is trying to get across. It will be a while before dd is ready for an overnighter, but I'm glad we waited until we did before we started leaving dd with family. I don't buy into the "ignore your fears and doubts, baby will be fine!" because the majority of the time, it's your momma instincts waving that red flag.

I read through the responses and agree that maybe a date night is in order. If you're not comfortable leaving your 10 month old for a few hours (we weren't at that age) you can have dedicated couple time at home when baby is napping, or after baby has gone to bed for the night. GL.

[kona211]

We just took a 2100 mile driving vacation across Michigan's Upper peninsula with our (at the time) 5 month dd. We had a lot of fun and there is no way we could have left her. Hubby and I try to keep connected in ways that don't involve leaving our dd. We waited too long for her and she is too precious to us to leave her like that.