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Is this right? A friends advice from Facebook.

Posted by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:28 PM
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I posted about my dd sleeping pattern last night, today. And I was expected some ff moms to reply with how great their kids sleep, which I got. So I replied with how she just wakes for comfort feedings and she also digests her food faster then ff babies. Well, this is a friends respond. Keep in mind, she isnt one of the moms who previously posted to it and I believe she also bf for a few months as well.  


look you are doing the right thing breastfeeding, but it is now time for her to be sleeping through the night and you are going to have to go through some time of letting her cry. I would suggest setting your alarm for a single feeding on a time she doesn't normally wake up for about 3 days, then to none. Nobody (including babies) like being woken up when they are sleeping and it will reinforce her to feed more deeply and stay asleep, since no-one is coming to pick her up when she wakes in the night. It will be hard, but embrace the suck because it means entire nights of sleep for you and the longer you let this go on the harder it will be as she gets older.

How should I take this, or do with it at all?
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LoveOfWisdom
by Bronze Member on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:30 PM
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Lol, completely ignore this.
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MILFInProgress
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:31 PM
Personally I would not take that advice.
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eema.gray
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:33 PM
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Because human milk digests faster, it is normal, natural, and expected that babies will wake up at least once overnight to nurse and very often several times.  Two of mine woke every 90 minutes throughout the night to nurse.  My current nursling wake up twice a night.  I have not done anything different with her, this just appears to be her normal pattern.  My first two were wearing 18 mo clothes (no lie) by the time they were 6 months old.  This one is growing fast, but slower than her siblings, and will probably not be that gigantic when she turns six months old.

I would not try to night wean your baby yet.  Babies do most of their growing when they sleep.  They need to wake up and eat occassionally to compensate for the energy expended on growth and brain development.  Not to mention, the deep sleep induced by formula can be a risk factor for SIDS.

MommyRoberts626
by Member on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:33 PM
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My first dd was bf til 13 months and didn't sleep through the night until she weaned. I now have a 2 month old. I personally think of it as its only a year. A year goes by soo fast. They grow too fast for me, so when waking at night, that means I get to spend a little extra one on one time with them. I don't mind it. She will eventually sleep through the night when she is weaned, so i just go with it.
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mamak3211
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:34 PM

i would also ignore it. I'd say thanks for the advice to be polite but it something I would not do.

gdiamante
by Group Mod - Gina on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:34 PM
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Quoting louise1212:

I posted about my dd sleeping pattern last night, today. And I was expected some ff moms to reply with how great their kids sleep, which I got. So I replied with how she just wakes for comfort feedings and she also digests her food faster then ff babies. Well, this is a friends respond. Keep in mind, she isnt one of the moms who previously posted to it and I believe she also bf for a few months as well.  


look you are doing the right thing breastfeeding, but it is now time for her to be sleeping through the night

Nope.

and you are going to have to go through some time of letting her cry.


Nope.


I would suggest setting your alarm for a single feeding on a time she doesn't normally wake up for about 3 days, then to none.

Oh dear GOD no.

Nobody (including babies) like being woken up when they are sleeping and it will reinforce her to feed more deeply and stay asleep, since no-one is coming to pick her up when she wakes in the night. It will be hard, but embrace the suck because it means entire nights of sleep for you and the longer you let this go on the harder it will be as she gets older.

How should I take this, or do with it at all?

Ignore it.

Babies adjust their sleeping patterns best when mom doesn't mess with it. They ALL sleep longer and better when you pay attention to their individual sleep patterns and throw out the clock.

Some of us are programmed to wake every few hours... I turn 49 next month and the ONLY times in my life I've slept more than three hours in a row were when I was seriously ill. We are all programmed differently. (Which really sucks for parents who are on a different sleep schedule!)

MamaHome
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:36 PM

Ignore it. You can't force a baby to establish a pattern.

cabrandy03
by Brandy on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:36 PM
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I would ignore it.  Babies will learn to sleep through the night all on their own, when they're ready...I think it's wrong to just leave a baby to cry.

babymine
by Silver Member on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:37 PM
That sounds cruel to me. :(
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kidnappedbylove
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 12:38 PM
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I respectfully disagree. I also don't think it makes any sense. No one likes to be woken up, not even babies, but they like to be woken up for three days and left to cry? Sounds like she thinks an adult's needs are more important than an infants and I disagree with that.
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