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I have been neglecting myself and I can not go on like this

Posted by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 12:57 PM
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I don't know if anyone here can help me but I will try anything.

I have had a weight problem ever since I have graduated from high school but no one have always considered me lucky for being thin. The fact is that it is harder to gain when one is underweight than it is to lose.

I tend to eat more when I am happy. I got up to 100lbs when I started living with my husband. which is my ideal weight (I am 4"11). I got up to 130lbs when I was pregnant and got back down to 100lbs about a month later by breastfeeding alone. Problem is I kept right on losing. I am down to 90lbs and my MIL even started commenting on my weight.

My baby is almost 8 months old now and my goal is to one year so cutting back is NOT an option. I am eating 3 meals a day plus snacks but I am still sitting at 90lbs and nothing seems to be working. I am hoping thatsomeone can help me and not call me lucky because I lack strength which is a big issue. I have to take care of me in order for me to take care of my DS.

Any help or comments will be greatly appreciated

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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 12:57 PM
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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 1:50 PM
Do you take prenatals while nursing or any vitamins?
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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 1:56 PM
Take prenatal vitamins if you're not and maybe meet with a nutritionist or your doctor. Try eating more healthy fats and carbs maybe.
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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 2:36 PM

I would eat pleanty of protien. Don't add unhealthy fatsjust to gain weight. You should still eat healthy but add things like almonds, cheese, fruits. You could have berry shakes with protien pwder in them for breakfast. Eggs, meat and whole wheat toast. You could also do strength training to build muscle and eat plenty of good protien. 

by Bronze Member on Aug. 24, 2012 at 2:36 PM
Maybe you have a malabsorption issue?

Silent celiac disease is getting much more prevalent. One o my good friends had no symptoms at all but on biopsy, she has severe celiac disease.
Maybe worth a visit to a GI specialist?
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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 2:56 PM
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Talk your issues over with your primary care phsycian. Then schedule some time with a nutritionist. The nutrionist should be albe to assist you with a meal plan that helps provide the right types of fats and in the right quantities to help you gain weight.
by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 3:01 PM
Protein and iron. They will make you feel a lot better if you aren't getting enough!
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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 3:06 PM
I weighed 88lbs while nursing my oldest.

Are you eating healthy whole foods? My body doesnt absorb fake thingd well. here are a few things I eat that also bemefit milk: Eat real oatmeal w/ 100% maple syrup made wiith full fat milk and side turkey sausage. Lunch beef chili with beans, side salad with olive oil based dressing. Dinner grilled chicken, grilled veggies, whole grain baguette dipped in olive oil. Snack on veggies and pita chips in hummus. Cook with lots olive oil. Add avacado to salads and sandwhiches.

Are you concerned because of numbers.or do you actually feel bad? My delivery weight for 3 kids was always around 119-123. I had 7.5lb 37wkers. My healthy normal weight is around 95lbs. Sure bmi is bad but Im almost a D cup, im def not scrawny I just have very very small skeletal frame.
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by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 3:12 PM

I have the same issue.

Have you had bloodwork done? You want to get your B12, thyroid and iron levels checked.My appetite goes the way of the dodo if I don't get B12 injections. (Which ironically are linked to a decrease in appetite in many people.)

I make sure that I eat plenty of healthy proteins and fats. Nuts, avocado, fish, eggs.

Do you have a lack of appetite, or do you find you eat a lot?

Have you been screened for celiac?

I'm 5'11 and usually weigh about 115. After giving birth my weight goes wayyyyy down to about 105 and then my body figures out what it's doing again and rebounds.

Being active helps me, too.

Strength isn't an issue for me anymore. The B12 helps me have energy and strength.

by Gold Member on Aug. 24, 2012 at 3:13 PM

 First question I would have is how many calories are you taking in a day?

by on Aug. 24, 2012 at 3:15 PM
I have the dame issue I am 5'1 and I'm 92lbs and dropping I eat when I am hungry but I'm always on the go with chorse work and now school its hard to take care of myself I put my sons needs first and then mine
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