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There is no way anyone could convince me that ff is easier than bf! Last night I did the dishes, made dinner and nursed ds all at the same time (love my babyhawk, btw)!! Couldnt have done that with a bottle, lol!!
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by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 1:52 PM
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LilynAustin
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 8:27 PM
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washing bottles at 2 am?  Yeah, been there done that...NEVER again.  :P

Angel_Red7
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 8:30 PM
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I only pumped for two weeks. My son was born at 37 weeks and in the NICU for a week and 3 days.

There are many moms that succeed. I'd post another post asking your question. I just kept trying and offering the breast. I had to work on his latch. If your child does not have to stay in the NICU, I wouldn't worry about it. I would try to get him or her to latch as soon as you can after birth. No bottles or paci.

Good luck! My prayers are with you and your baby. If you need anything or support, just send me a message.

Quoting thedathree:


Autumn355
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 8:35 PM
It will go away. Keep trying different nursing positions and relatch if its not working. I had a hard time with ds2 after he was born. I knew it was a mix of him learning to bf, my nipples not being used to it and most importantly my HORMONES(yuck) lol!
I told myself I would stick it out for the first 6 weeks and really give it a chance before I even consider an alternative. It worked out for me.

Quoting paknari:

The lactation specialist says the pain will go away but maybe you are right. It hurts every time and my nipples are so sore I can hardly wear a bra.



Quoting MonicaV1982:

If you're having pain that means that something is wrong. Even if someone says differently find someone else until you find that person that listens and has the capacity to help you.



Quoting paknari:

I'm going to breastfeed this time but formula feeding is easier. It's not painful and for Someone with DD breasts I can't walk around feeding my child. I have to sit and hold my boob with both hands and use a bobby pillow to situate baby. I never propped the bottle but it is still a pai. In the ass to bf. if it wasn't for the health benefits I would never bf.






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justone_jen
by Jen on Oct. 7, 2012 at 8:50 PM
My cup size is a G. I've never exposed myself in the seven months I've been breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding is easier for me. I hate cleaning the bottles she uses while I'm working. It's a huge pain in the ass. I wouldn't want to deal with it any more than I have to.

I only have to take diapers, wipes and an extra outfit when we go out. I don't have to wake up and make bottles in the middle of the night because she just latches when she's hungry. I don't have to go somewhere to buy her food/formula. Her milk is free.

The health benefits are why I breastfeed, but in my opinion, it is much more convenient. If you think formula feeding is easier, that's fine. I just wanted to point out that large breasts don't make it impossible to nurse in public. :)


Quoting paknari:

Unless I use my other hand to hold my breast up my dd can't bresthe. I'm sure that I could stand and expose myself to everyone around but I do plan on doing that! :-)




Quoting celestegood:

I have ddd breasts and bf on the go. You have to learn how to do it but it certainly is possible.





Quoting paknari:

I'm going to breastfeed this time but formula feeding is easier. It's not painful and for Someone with DD breasts I can't walk around feeding my child. I have to sit and hold my boob with both hands and use a bobby pillow to situate baby. I never propped the bottle but it is still a pai. In the ass to bf. if it wasn't for the health benefits I would never bf.

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Autumn355
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 8:53 PM
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Most of the time I am sitting with ds and nusring, it was the first time that I was able to multi-task and nurse and I was super excited about it. It made me think of moms who say ff is easier so I thought I would point out how bf can be made easier.

I practiced at home that night and since have nursed ds2 like that at the pumpkin patch and was able to spend time with and keep up with ds1 without everyone having to sit down and wait since dh wasnt there because we just adopted a new dog so he stayed home. Speaking of I nursed ds like that while we were at the spca adopting the dog. It also did it like that at dh's company bbq and was able to keep an eye on ds1.

Now the majority of the time I do sit and nurse and bond. Usually ds1 sits in the chair with us and we all bond.



Quoting one_on_the_way:

I agree...I think it should have been said "most mothers I know".

Also, as a formula feeding mother who seriously valued that feeding time = bonding time....it was never my goal to multi-task while my baby fed.  So, the fact the OP said she could do the dishes and make dinner while her baby breastfed, it isn't something that would have been my choice (breastfeeding or bottle feeding).  I can understand that it is necessary for some mothers to find ways to get the most done (especially mothers of more than one child).  For me, I wanted eye to eye contact with my son while he drank his bottle.  He always took his little hand and ran it through my hair while he ate and would just look at me.  To this day, he still likes to run his fingers through my hair when we cuddle and he is feeling content and safe.  


Quoting TigressLily:

I know some women do that, but in my lifetime, I've never seen anyone do it. So the idea that "most" women might better be phrased as "most women I know," since neither you nor I know the statistics of that situation. I am having to FF my DD now, she refused to BF at 4 months, but I have never propped up a bottle with her no matter what. And some women that "breastfeed" are actually pumping into a bottle and giving them the bottle.... so they could prop it up just the same as FF.

Quoting mama2gg:

Sadly MOST women don't hold their babies when ff they just prop bottle and go about the day



None of my friends bf and i never saw one of them hold baby to feed if they were doing something it was make bottle, pillow, prop on with whatver




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Britania
by Member on Oct. 7, 2012 at 9:01 PM
For me breastfeeding has never been "easy.". I am not able to feed in a carrier, but that sounds awesome! Wish it was that easy for me :)
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XVAmomma
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 9:33 PM
If you can't make yourself lactate after adopting then it isn't lack of desire; you belong to the 1% that can't... So as I said you fall in the need be category. I have no problem with ff for babies that can't lactate. My problem is with the momma who choose ff over bf. If you as a mom don't want the whole thing then you really don't want it.

And If you want it you'll educate yourself. Besides if you want to BF but can't you can always ask for BM donations or buy it if you have the $.

Personally I donate whenever possible I think that if my milk can nourish a baby then why let it spoil. But if momma is in need of some $$$ to provide for her young and their is someone who can afford to pay for it then it is a win win situation.

Quoting addiesmommy1109:

What about people who adopt? The people who spend years trying and trying to have a baby to only find out that isn't going to happen? I understand you can make yourself lactate but what if that isn't an option or they were not educated on that?



Quoting XVAmomma:

Yes, you are correct. It isn't the only thing when it comes to parenting. And loving, caring ppl make good parents but being good at something doesn't mean you really want to do it. I am not saying that if you ff you shouldn't be a parent I said that IMO if you choose to FF then you don't REALLY WANT to be a mother 2 very different things!





Quoting silka08:

Nursing is yes a part of parenting but it certainly is not the only component. I believe every baby deserves BM, but I have FF friends who are some of the most caring, loving, and long waiting parents I have ever met.







Quoting XVAmomma:

Hey it is my opinion! I am not passing a law that forbids woman to have kids unless they want to bf. Breastfeeding is the natural thing to do and a large part of being a mom. I get that there is a very low percent that really can't nurse and in that case I applaud the ff. Because what is the option allow the kid to starve? No! Feed that baby! But choosing not to bf to me is like going to a french restaurant and asking for a Big Mac or Whopper...you just like the idea of the french restaurant dining but place a true french plate in front and you just won't handle it.









Why am I a bitch for it? If the mom is entitel to FF why can't I have my opinion about it? I am not forcing her to BF!









Quoting Mrs.Pedro:

That very last statement just ruined your whole reply. I can handle opinions, but it's a bitch thing to say someone doesn't want to be a mom just because they decided to ff.









Quoting XVAmomma:

Yes! It is easier to haul all that around, clean and sterilized all of it, wait in line to buy formula and then deal with doctors, emergency rooms and all that jazz! Yeah, If you say so!













To me bottle feed is unnatural and should be dealt only in need be cases. Mom has to go to work (my situation/I still pump no formula for my baby) or mom dies or mom has no milk bank and had an emergency (real not I am so frustated I need a day SPA emergency) or in the worst case mom/baby are in the catastrophe 1% that really can't nurse.













I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO NURSE YOUR YOUNGS YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE A MOTHER.























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XVAmomma
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 9:48 PM
Breastfeeding is way more than feeding a young. Yes! If you choose to do half of something then do you really want to do it? If you just drop the load of dirty clothes in the washer and put no detergent on it. Are you really washing your clothes? If you set the table, call in your family but place no food in front of them are you really having dinner?

You don't need to agree that choosing not to bf equals lack of true desier to be a mom. You can simply dissagree but without a base you are just letting out hot air.

Why is it dumb? What are the bases for your insults?


Quoting mjande4:

This might be the DUMBEST and most CONDESCENDING thing that I have seen on this thread!  Wow!  How one feeds their child determines whether they really wanted a child or not.  Good grief!


Quoting XVAmomma:

Yes, you are correct. It isn't the only thing when it comes to parenting. And loving, caring ppl make good parents but being good at something doesn't mean you really want to do it. I am not saying that if you ff you shouldn't be a parent I said that IMO if you choose to FF then you don't REALLY WANT to be a mother 2 very different things!





Quoting silka08:

Nursing is yes a part of parenting but it certainly is not the only component. I believe every baby deserves BM, but I have FF friends who are some of the most caring, loving, and long waiting parents I have ever met.







Quoting XVAmomma:

Hey it is my opinion! I am not passing a law that forbids woman to have kids unless they want to bf. Breastfeeding is the natural thing to do and a large part of being a mom. I get that there is a very low percent that really can't nurse and in that case I applaud the ff. Because what is the option allow the kid to starve? No! Feed that baby! But choosing not to bf to me is like going to a french restaurant and asking for a Big Mac or Whopper...you just like the idea of the french restaurant dining but place a true french plate in front and you just won't handle it.







Why am I a bitch for it? If the mom is entitel to FF why can't I have my opinion about it? I am not forcing her to BF!









Quoting Mrs.Pedro:

That very last statement just ruined your whole reply. I can handle opinions, but it's a bitch thing to say someone doesn't want to be a mom just because they decided to ff.









Quoting XVAmomma:

Yes! It is easier to haul all that around, clean and sterilized all of it, wait in line to buy formula and then deal with doctors, emergency rooms and all that jazz! Yeah, If you say so!











To me bottle feed is unnatural and should be dealt only in need be cases. Mom has to go to work (my situation/I still pump no formula for my baby) or mom dies or mom has no milk bank and had an emergency (real not I am so frustated I need a day SPA emergency) or in the worst case mom/baby are in the catastrophe 1% that really can't nurse.











I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO NURSE YOUR YOUNGS YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE A MOTHER.



















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fullxbusymom
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 9:49 PM
Ya well my baby nurses for a twenty minutes to a half hour every 2-3hrs. Every single time. I honestly don't know anyone that has ever sterilized water everyone here just uses tap water. Umm baby wearing isn't natural, cosleeping does not work for us...I can not sleep with any child in my bed. So that doesn't help me that makes matter worse. Also I don't baby wear well it hurts my body, I hurt the baby by hitting his head off walls, the counter etc. It doesn't work.

FYI I do feed in public I don't hide away I simply have to sit in order to feed him so that makes things far harder to be trying to walk around the mall, shopping etc.

My baby took to bf'ing like a champ never had an issue latching, never hurt me nothing. It still is so much easier to formula feed in my opinion.


Quoting silka08:

This would be a personal carryout difference vs ff and bf ease. Its also baby dependent.



If bottles are prepped to WHO(world health organization) standards the water is to be sterilized via boiling to sterilize the powdered formula.



My children nursed just 10mins evert 2-3hrs. Thats much easier than boiling, washing and feeding the bottle. Certainly they have moments they feed more often, but its still easier in the overall.



I dont miss out bevause I dont seclude myself. I wear two shirts, a tank and a T or sweater. I pull the tank down and the T up and 9/10 no one even knows im feeding and they have even been close enough to touch the baby.



Choosing not to babywear, co-sleep, secluding oneself are cultural burderns of BFing, not natural burdens. Most cultures women feed w/o thinking twice while out for coffee, in a store, etc. Choosing not to prepare via WHO standards is also a false ease of FF.



Also, every baby is different. Ceryainly the numerous babies with gastric issues or allergies would not be easoer to formula. Maybe a baby with a medical condition making latching difficult and inefficient might seem easier to bottlefeed. There are a lot of personal, cultural and baby specific reasons why one migjt find FF or BF easier.




Quoting fullxbusymom:

It is a million times easier to FF than BF. I have done both and I got to tell ya, being strapped down every time my 7mo old wants to nurse when you have 3 other kids is horrible. If formula wasn't so expensive I would have formula fed a million times over than have ever breastfed. It is literally one of the hardest most draining things I have ever done as a mother and I don't necessarily think it was worth it.





Put 2 scoops of formula in a bottle, turn the tap on shake and by 7 mo's heck by 5mo's they were completely holding the bottle 100% on their own. Way, Way, Way easier. When we went out I simply turned the tap on hot put some hot water in a bottle. Threw it in the bag and had some premeasured formula that I could dump in it, shake and hand it to them. vs. Bf'ing where you have to find a spot to sit and be all discreet, and then miss half of the fun with the rest of your family because you had to feed the baby.





Oh I don't baby wear I am uncomfortable, slam the babies head off everything, my body aches. Nope can't do it.

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tth328
by on Oct. 7, 2012 at 9:52 PM
Both ff and bf have their difficulties and either one should outweigh the another in effort. Mothers who want to ff for whatever reason shouldn't be damn as not wanting to be a mom simple because of one decision. People who don't want to be moms are people who abuse, neglect, murder their own child(ren), etc etc.


Quoting XVAmomma:

Yes! It is easier to haul all that around, clean and sterilized all of it, wait in line to buy formula and then deal with doctors, emergency rooms and all that jazz! Yeah, If you say so!



To me bottle feed is unnatural and should be dealt only in need be cases. Mom has to go to work (my situation/I still pump no formula for my baby) or mom dies or mom has no milk bank and had an emergency (real not I am so frustated I need a day SPA emergency) or in the worst case mom/baby are in the catastrophe 1% that really can't nurse.



I HONESTLY BELIEVE THAT IF YOU DON'T WANT TO NURSE YOUR YOUNGS YOU REALLY DON'T WANT TO BE A MOTHER.




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