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divorce and extended breastfeeding.

Posted by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:36 PM
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XDH and I have officially been divorced for 3 months, our youngest DD just turned 1 around the same time. I believe in self weaning. We have been very fair about custody with the kids but we've run into a problem. I in no way want to keep our children from him but IDK what to do in this situation and am seeking advice. I allow DD to nurse whenever she chooses, and have never restricted her on this nor have I ever given her cows milk or any other milk besides my own. XDH knows how I feel about that, we have had 3 previous children together all of whom self weaned at different ages well past 1 year. While packing the kids bag I included several containers of hand expressed breast milk in a cooler for DD, she takes it well from a sippy cup. When the kids returned the containers were all still full, I asked him why he didnt use the breast milk and he said he wasn't going to put up with that **** anymore and that shes old enough to not be so attached to me. Im not quite sure how to approach this situation, we've been fine up until now and I certainly dont want to make a huge deal out of something that maybe is only my personal issue. So what do you ladies think? big deal or get over it?

by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:36 PM
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MrsRinehart2010
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:39 PM

 I would have made sure it was in the custody agreement that he had to use it or he couldnt take her. but thats jsut me mmy daughtre suffers from a rythmic issue with her tounge that enabled her from taking a bottle or sippy so my husband wouldnt havebeen able to keep her for long periods untill she was on a big cup like she is now . But we still nurse on demand. I would try to see if you can get in incorperated  into your custody agreement. Good luck sounds like he is just being a jerk

feliciasmith
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:40 PM
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Big deal, to me anyway. You're still her mother regardless of your marital status or where she is for the night.
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melindabelcher
by mel on Oct. 9, 2012 at 3:43 PM
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No biggie nurse when your together
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K8wizzo
by Kate on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:07 PM

No biggie as long as she's fine with cow's milk.  Nurse when you're together, pump for relief when you're apart.

WhitleyLyles
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:13 PM
i think hes being ridiculous
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sleepymommy87
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:14 PM
It's a big deal to me, so I would be up in arms about it.
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WhitleyLyles
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:14 PM
exactly

Quoting feliciasmith:

Big deal, to me anyway. You're still her mother regardless of your marital status or where she is for the night.
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WhitleyLyles
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:17 PM
i eanted to say that i would be very angry about it
I mighy even tell him that if he wants to act like that that i wouldnt let her be away from me
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Char07
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:19 PM
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I would let it go unless she has problems with cows milk, I would continue to nurse and I would pump while away if I could (jmo) and plan to let her self wean anyways. I would still be annoyed by his reaction and change but would be thankful shes over a year.

Eta- unless you think talking to him could change his mind, I just don't see using it to say you can't take her or trying to fight it legally now without a medical reason working in your favor
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Nolanzo
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 4:23 PM
Since I don't do cows milk at all... id be livid. What did he give her in place of your bm?
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