Maternity leave ends today :( Kinda long, sorry but I need help!
Sorry for the long post but I have to vent: UGH! I go back to work tomorrow and I'm worried about my mom (caregiver) wasting BM. She's already done it once, 5 oz. down the drain b/c she "forgot" to put it back in the freezer when I told her she wouldn't need it (before it thawed of course). I've told her how much to feed A, given her the info about the 1-1.25 oz. per hour rule. I even told her that when hubs practiced with a bottle a few times, since there will be times he'll be with her instead of my mom, that she only took 3 oz. and anything more she'd spit it up. Last weekend we had a wedding in Michigan about an hour away and when I called to check on A she told me she took almost 5 oz and was still crying. AAAH! When we went to pick her up my mom said she had to change her b/c she spit up a ton and soaked her outfit! DUH, you gave her TOO much! She just won't listen to me. I know I'm only working 2-3 days per week for 4-5 hours at a time but I'm stressed about it already! I'm also worried about pump output and not being able to keep up. Sorry again about the length, just had to get it off my chest! Thanks :)
Tia,. if you don't get mom toeing the line then you'll be paying for formula, and that's more pricey than child care. Leave her ONLY enough for the day... in fact, short her a little. It will force her to be more careful. And no, it WILL NOT hurt baby! Baby will make up for it. Tank baby up before you go and baby probably won't need a single drop.
I would start investigating other options though.. churches, neighborhood moms, maybe even an alternate schedule so you or dad are the caregivers if mom cannot be trusted.
the problem the first time was that she took the extra from the bottle she needed for the next feeding. I mean yes, she had too much at hand to begin with bc i ran out of freezer room here and sent it to her house, but i didn't expect her to take from another bottle for a later feeding. I told her what she takes and she always says that when A's at her house she takes more. I'm going to talk to her about pacing feedings tomorrow so we won't have this problem.
Quoting luvhubandbabys:
Can u put the milk in bottles. Like if u need 3... 3oz bottles give her that. Then she can just heat them up. That's all she gets for the day so tell her feed a bottle every 3 hrs or so.. (whatever it is). Tell her to keep them in the fridge until baby needs to eat. Don't give her access to extra.
Quoting Tia84201:the problem the first time was that she took the extra from the bottle she needed for the next feeding. I mean yes, she had too much at hand to begin with bc i ran out of freezer room here and sent it to her house, but i didn't expect her to take from another bottle for a later feeding. I told her what she takes and she always says that when A's at her house she takes more. I'm going to talk to her about pacing feedings tomorrow so we won't have this problem.
Quoting luvhubandbabys:
Can u put the milk in bottles. Like if u need 3... 3oz bottles give her that. Then she can just heat them up. That's all she gets for the day so tell her feed a bottle every 3 hrs or so.. (whatever it is). Tell her to keep them in the fridge until baby needs to eat. Don't give her access to extra.
Baby should never get more then 3oz in one sitting.
this post may already exist. i'm sorry if it does. :(
- Tia84201
on Oct. 29, 2012 at 10:06 AM