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We had a check up on Declan and of course weight has been a big issue. She uses the dang chart. He's gained 1lb 6oz in 4 weeks. Perfect weight gain but his pedi is insisting I feed 4 bottles of half formula half breastmilk. I broke down a flat out refused. She's threatening to admit him to the hospital if his weight is not better in a week. My mom was with me and heard it all. She keeps him and is going to feed it to him and I told her I am not buying it. I've made an appt with another pedi because im so upset and do not want to feed him formula. He's meeting milestones and he's short and light but he's healthy. Of course my mom is telling me he could die. Im so mad I don't want to take him back to the dr I have been using since my oldest was born
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by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 10:20 AM
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justone_jen
by Jen on Nov. 14, 2012 at 12:26 PM
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"I'm giving it to him," would garner a, "You won't be watching him, then. Remember, you're grandma. I am mom," response from me.

Go see a new pediatrician. There is nothing wrong with that kind of gain. And give your mom some printed information on breastfed babies and weight gain.
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Gruntlings
by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 12:33 PM

What is his weight history? The gain that you mention is right on target and is more than the lower end of what you want to see. Has his gain been poor in months prior? How many wet diapers does he have per 24 hours? Does the doctor have anything that he is basing his concern on other than the number on the scale?

I'm a big believer in not dismissing anything that a doctor is concerned about off the bat without looking into it. However, it sounds like your doctor is not doing the correct follow-up. When a baby is making enough wet diapers and is not "gaining enough" usually there is a reason not related to mom's supply. Tongue ties are a common reason. Hidden reflux. An allergy to something in mom's diet (commonly milk and/or soy). Saying "USE FORMULA!" without understanding the reason is BAD because one of the common causes is an allergy and formula would be a concentrated form of that allergy. Sometimes by the time the allergy is discovered mom's supply has been so damaged that the baby has to switch to hypoallergenic elemental formula or donor milk. And it's HARD to find donor milk for allergic babies. Doing something that can damage mom's supply without a referral to a pediatric GI specialist, without a second opinion, without a visit to the ENT to see if baby has a tongue tie, and without a referral to an IBCLC to see if there is an issue that can be resolved.. Is negligence. (Unless baby is dehydrated, losing weight, lethargic, has brick dust in the diaper, etc.) When you have a baby that is meeting milestones, meeting the lower end of expected gain and is just "not as big as the doctor would like" there is ABSOLUTELY time to do bloodwork and look into whether there is reason for the lower gain that is concerning as opposed to "small because of genetics".

-Sarah
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Sarah is a mom to three and a moderator in the "Breastfeeding Moms" group. She runs Nurshable.com where she blogs about finding joy in gentle parenting.


sreichelt26
by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 12:44 PM
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This. especially this: And sorry, mom cannot be caregiver. She cannot respect you, she's fired too

Quoting gdiamante:


Quoting MisfitInTN:

We had a check up on Declan and of course weight has been a big issue. She uses the dang chart.
Ped's fired. As of NOW.
He's gained 1lb 6oz in 4 weeks. Perfect weight gain but his pedi is insisting I feed 4 bottles of half formula half breastmilk.
Don't.
I broke down a flat out refused. She's threatening to admit him to the hospital if his weight is not better in a week. My mom was with me and heard it all. She keeps him and is going to feed it to him and I told her I am not buying it. I've made an appt with another pedi because im so upset and do not want to feed him formula. He's meeting milestones and he's short and light but he's healthy. Of course my mom is telling me he could die. Im so mad I don't want to take him back to the dr I have been using since my oldest was born

No more taking mom with you anywhere. A baby who gains that much in that amount of time is in NO danger of dying! Change peds RIGHT THIS MINUTE.

And sorry, mom cannot be caregiver. She cannot respect you, she's fired too.


MommyO2-6631
by Leslie on Nov. 14, 2012 at 12:54 PM
Get a second opinion asap in case thr dr tries to call cps and tell your mom you will be able to tell if she feeds him formula (poop). And if she does then she will never get to baby sit again! My son doesn't even gain this much in a month!! He gained well within the normal range.... what more does she want???
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IrishIz
by Silver Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 1:32 PM
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I'd be curious what his weights have been.  If he was having issues but now has this sudden gain...something is now going right so why mess with it?  I wouldn't listen to the doctor and mom would either agree to respect my wishes or she wouldn't be watching my kid.

LucyHourglass
by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 1:56 PM

that  gain is great!!! what more could they possibly want? i agree with the others, different pedi

fortressmom
by Bronze Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 3:25 PM

Print off a copy of the WHO chart and see where he is on that one. I guarantee he's not off the chart there. New pedi and maybe new babysitter if mom refuses to respect your wishes. Go to kellymom and print off information for her about breast babies and weight gain. She needs to be educated on why you're standing your ground.

tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Nov. 14, 2012 at 4:29 PM

DO NOT leave him with your mom if she will not follow your wishes, she will go buy that formula if you do not.  WHY is 1lbs 6 oz not enough in 4 weeks for your pediatrician? The norm is 4 oz a week and thats 6 oz over that.  Your baby gained 5 oz a week basically so I am confused.  Charts are stupid, you need to start calling pediatricians right now and transfer your sons care!

tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Nov. 14, 2012 at 4:30 PM

Can you give us a list of weights and ages/dates?

MisfitInTN
by Member on Nov. 14, 2012 at 5:30 PM
Ok birth 8/15/12 he was 7lbs 11.6 oz. At 5 days old he was 7lbs 3 oz. At 2 weeks he was 7lbs. At 3 weeks he was 7lbs 3.5 oz at 4 weeks he was 7lbs 9 oz at 5 weeks 7lbs 13 oz. At 6 weeks 8#2oz. At 9 weeks 9#3oz and at 13 weeks he is 10lbs 8 oz.

Quoting tabi_cat1023:

Can you give us a list of weights and ages/dates?

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