FYI
Can't believe people are jumping on her like this!
Breast feeding is hard, and i feel ya, it'd be nice to be able to share the responsibility. And that's where formula has the upside! It doesn't have to be mom to feed. Even pumped milk takes time and effort! I can't believe some of you are so quick to judge, you can't just say, it's hard mama, but we're here for you. Please stick to BM, but do what you have to!
Good luck hon. I understand. I'm tired too.
Quoting larissalarie:
Not to be snarky, but if he won't take a bottle now what makes you think he'll take one with formula in it? Formula feeding absolutely does NOT equal sleeping at night or make babies somehow less exhausting (just ask my sister in law, all 3 of her kids were ff from birth and weren't great sleepers and she's the most constantly exhausted person I know. Seriously)
He WILL take a bottle when you work or run errands eventually and if he doesn't, he's not that hungry.
Wean if you want, but I want you to understand that formula isn't magic potion and won't make your baby less of a baby. Formula moms face all the same issues (almost everyone I know ff) but because they don't breastfeed nobody blames how they're fed as the cause. It always blows my mind how if you bf suddenly that's the culprit for everything,yet if a formula baby is cranky, clingy, or not sleeping well nobody ever suggests it's because Mom is formula feeding.
Good luck!
You can do it. Breastmilk is the best thing for a newborn! I know how you feel. I am pregnant again and have a bf 7 month old. I may have 2 kids to feed soon.
This to shall pass!
When you *make it* to the other side,
you will
forget how rough *it was*
Quoting caelsmom16:
Ouch! Well that was crazy judgemental, i thought this was a place to share, get info and support each other.
Quoting Ireallydontcare:I am a huge breastfeeding advocate, but an unhappy momma will lead to an unhappy baby. Good luck to you.
Ok, if you had said in your post you were thinking of pumping and giving bottles, then maybe your responses would have been different, but you came on saying "stopping breastfeeding" and never once mentioned pumping in your orig. post. Of course the ladies are assuming you mean formula and are setting your expectations to a more reasonable level. If you feel it will help you by all means give a bottle. No big deal. But don't expect giving bottles to make your baby magically not need you less. THAT in my mind is the selfish part of that post. Yes i get it! I have the ashamed selfish mommy moments, and I feel horrible that I feel the need to run and hide from DD when she gets uber clingy. But I have to say, knowing that when she cries in the middle of the night and all i have to do is roll over and lift my shirt, sure I definitely think bfing was worth the work in the beginning and I'm getting much more sleep at 11mo.
caught the stomach flu and now i dont produce enough
- caelsmom16
on Nov. 17, 2012 at 8:49 PM