Well, like I've said before I'm w a wonderful man who says he'll support whatever decision I make. Though after having him read some articles he really wants me to end for at least 6-9 mos, of not longer. He's read the benefits of health, nutrition, the bonding, a stronger immune system, and many other positives. So I know I have him and my mom who is unfortunately living several states away.
So the soon to be mil is now jumping down my throat about it. And her main attack weapon is my almost 8 yr old son. At first she acted all gung ho about it, now she's done a 180. Saying are you even going to make enough? (I am pretty flat chested, but I still produced plenty w older boy) and what are you going to do when he wants to eat when you're out? Or at work? Simple I say, I'll pump for work and feed him when out. Maybe pump occasionally for an outing. Depends on what we're doing and where. And what about if DF wants to do it? He'll do it while I'm at work, I'll say. Or he'll have another bonding routine w him. And that's what HE WANTS for MINE and HIS child. She's gone on about other things and I meet them all w a rather good solution. So then she throws the bomb :-( what are you going to do? Walk around topless in front of your older son when baby wants to eat? I say that's ridiculous. And then, well he's going to see your breasts, do you think that's a little borderline there? I asked, borderline WHAT??? Sexual she says. Inappropriate, immoral, questionable. Floored I got up and left. I had never thought about how it would affect my older one. But I don't think any of the words she used fit. I had planned on going into another room or something. Especially if he had friends over or something, cause our house is by the first bus stop, so even though I pick my son and his friend up everyday, the other kids always stop to play for a bit. He was breast fed when I could. And I don't see anything wrong w him knowing and teaching him its a completely natural thing.
So now I ask for advice on this::: How should I answer his questions about it? Or how should I do it w him around? Idk if my ex husband will have some smart ass comment. Probably. :-( and how do I deal w her? I thought I was doing pretty good til she brought up my older son :-/
******and another kicker!!!!! I had an appt w an LC from LLLI the other day. And she knew I needed and wanted to go and appts are hard to get. So I'm walking out the door to go and I get a phone call from her work. She said she wasn't feeling good and fainted. (She has some other medical issues and is also an insulin dependent diabetic. Well DF was at work on a call almost two hrs away and couldn't leave, so guess who had to go? And I tried to say I'll be there after my appt but she threw a his du and DF begged me to go til he could get back this way. So I go to hospital w her and twenty mins after we get there it's revealed that her sugar was over 300 and she had "forgotten" to take her insulin. She's been on it for it 10 yrs. she knew what I had to do that day and what DF was doing. And we were also supposed to have an alone night and now we had to stay to w her :-/ )